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Sunday Apr 04, 2021
Sunday Apr 04, 2021
Self-Acceptance Is The Language of Self-Love
The WISDOM podcast Season 2 Episode 60
Self-acceptance is how you move into your heart. It is how you choose to witness yourself in the presence of wonder and great light. If you are listening perhaps you have contemplated what self-acceptance truly feels like; how it embraces all of you; how the majesty of what you are and what you hold becomes sacred.
To live in the acceptance of who and what you are is to live of your spiritual self. It is to hold true to who you are in the face of honoring what you seek to become; and in the presence of right action.
A part of what you will hear in this episode comes out of my 10-day course: ‘The Sacred Teachings of Being Love.’ You can find this course and others in The School of Wisdom. (This course is set to launch in the summer of 2021).
Self-acceptance is one extraordinary element to living whole and feeling self-love. It is intrinsically tied to how you live and respond in the world.
If you have been struggling to build your confidence. If your self-esteem has cause you to doubt your abilities. If your confidence needs to be reflective of all that you truly are, then sit back with attention; you may choose to close your eyes to take in all of my words as you allow this wisdom in to you; to be what you have been in search of.
Acceptance is the value of appreciation and approval. It is the inner felt knowledge that you are more than enough. It is self-love in words and actions that are spoken quietly to yourself and as you speak about yourself in conversation with others.
I share this sacred practice with you as most people struggle to feel true acceptance. It is a part of our inherent desire; to be approved of and accepted by others as a hard-wiring for our oneness. We look for ways to make ourselves better in what measures we believe will be externally valued - by society, media, religion, culture; when true acceptance can only be yours to give to yourself.
You may also seek to become more just to do this because it is important for you and for your personal goals and the desires that fuel your right action. Then, what improvements you pursue, will continue to benefit all of you. Think of self-acceptance as the language by which you speak to yourself as encouragement, as pride, as the methods by which you choose to hold value and self-love.
Here I share the most important builders of self-acceptance beginning with your ability to appreciate and be loving of all that you already are. You do this with gentle and kind words written and spoken and the ever-present appreciation for that which you do not take for granted; and that all that you are capable of.
My hope is that you will dive and take advantage of the skill practices of self-acceptance that I share here as an excerpt from the 10 day course: 'The Sacred Teachings of Being Love.' Self-Acceptance is the topic of Day Two of the course. This is one episode that you will want to dive into with pdf and pen!
Sending you much love....
This is Dorothy 💜
Namaste!
More Resources, More Love on Self-Acceptance:
A Meditation on Self-Acceptance [Guided Meditation]
More on: 'Who Am I?' [YouTube Video]
More on: 'Who Am I Becoming?' [YouTube Video]
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Get the pdf and the questions to guide your journey of Self-Acceptance here:
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Namaste!
If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com
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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternellwww.eternell.net/album/illuvia
Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Elysia'
Tuesday Mar 23, 2021
Tuesday Mar 23, 2021
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Where Do I Begin? | A Real Life Client Story
The WISDOM podcast Season 2 Episode 57
Your answers are waiting for you.
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This is a natural response to the idea of beginning therapy for those who have never had the experience.
It’s a response that I myself, and the other clinical interns that I trained with all shared as we looked at each other with a blank expression and a little apprehension because after all, what if you had never spoken to someone about something very personal and private; and something that would reveal parts of your life and your upbringing and some of your behaviours were less than ideal.
Unsure of what it will mean; or perhaps not fully read to open Pandora’s box; to look at your life from a perspective of:
‘What was the impact of that experience on me?’
‘How can I reconcile that situation so that I’m not reliving it each time I think about it?’
‘How did those life events, and the way that I was raised shape my thinking, my beliefs, and my confidence?’
‘Is there a way to change what I do so that I’m not feeling stressed, angry, or sad anymore?’
‘How can I improve parts of my life so that I can feel and live happy?’ and
‘Could I possibly fix or heal that hurt or wound of the past?’
There is an answer for each of these questions, waiting for you.
Join me for the answers to where and when you would benefit most from beginning therapy, and the real life story of my client Garrett and his wife Dina and how the timing of therapy could have made all of the difference.
*The names of my clients have been changed to protect their privacy. Their stories are real.
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Namaste!
If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com
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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternellwww.eternell.net/album/illuvia
Accompanying Music: Eternell: Album - Autumn Sky 'Elevation' & Album - Weightless 'High Clouds'
Sunday Feb 07, 2021
Sunday Feb 07, 2021
What Therapy Can Do For You.
The WISDOM podcast Season 2 Episode 44
with Dorothy Ratusny
TIMESTAMPS:
Podcast Theme Intro: 0-2:02 | My Introduction and What Therapy Can Do For You: 💜 2:03 | My Client's Diagnosis of Bipolar: 3:30 | Therapy is Far More Than Talking About the Past: 4:40 | The Two Positive Outcomes of Therapy That We Will Always Arrive at Together: 5:13 | Even After Healing Has Been Complete... 6:39 | Think of Therapy As a Healing Paradigm: 9:04 | Therapy Teaches You About Yourself: 11:05 | The Tools and Best Practices of Therapy: 18:17 | Three Reflective Questions PDF: 28:06 | Good Therapy Is... 23:22 | My Client: An Afterward: 28:56 | Podcast Theme Outro: 33:00 |
- If you have ever wondered what a session of therapy could do, this episode is for you. -
How does one identify, effectively all of the ways that therapy can be of help? How do we do this without embracing the experience itself when the idea of talking with someone can be overwhelming for some who don’t know where to begin, or how it can truly help?
TRUTH SERUM: In the past, the stigma associated with mental health has been a deterrent to seeking therapy.
What we are witnessing now, in this turbulent time of ongoing change and uncertainty, and with millions of people all over the world, experiencing more alone time and isolation than in any other time during their life, the effects of prolonged stress and the lack of support of mental health strategies and skills needed to live a healthy and productive and happy life; make it important to have the best therapeutic practices that are accessible by all people and in all languages and as much as possible - affordable and or free.
REAL CLIENT STORIES: When my client (who was), diagnosed with bipolar disorder at age 18, some 20 years later; is in a spell of low affect; when her cognitive ability is challenged; simple processing tasks are impeded.
It is more difficult for her to make decisions for example, and to feel motivated to complete daily tasks.
Her usual upbeat and larger than life personality becomes submersed in what is now a quiet and somber, depressed version of herself; one that lacks confidence, and is often tormented by thoughts of ‘being a burden’ to her loved ones.
Her words to me in these moments as well as when she is feeling ‘like herself’ and happy again, are substantial to us all. She reaffirms the simple truth: ‘Your mental health means everything’. She is right.
A-HA MOMENTS: Therapy is far more than talking about a traumatic childhood event and reliving its scaring impact.
In fact, the way that it helps best to deconstruct a past event or trauma is to examine it from an enlightened perspective; to understand the situation and the context in a way that allows for healing, forgiveness, acceptance, peace – and the idea that whatever happened, and for whatever was done “to you”, there are always going to be two positive outcomes that we will arrive at together.
(1) The first is a more accurate comprehension and understanding of the situation and the new insights and discoveries that arise out of a search for greater meaning and from that, the ability to come to acceptance. Acceptance does not mean agreement with what has happened, but rather the willingness to acknowledge what has already occurred.
This allows you to psychologically move into a place of action; of rendering what will be the action that you need to take whether as an approach to how you think or what physical actions will help support you best.
(2) Second, healing occurs when you hold acceptance of ‘what is’; emotional, psychological, cognitive, spiritual, and often physical in the relief of symptoms that were once related to the situation of the past and your perspective of it. This healing is the return to your wholeness that you; that we all - are inherently seeking.
PRACTICAL WISDOM: Even after the majority of healing has been completed, therapy can continue to be a place where one experiences growth in other areas of one’s life; and hence the ripple effect of what it means to learn and discover more (about one’s self, including the different choices one may choose with greater understanding and perspective).
As a side note, it’s not about making excuses for someone’s behavior, or disavowing your feelings and how you have been impacted by a situation or another.
Rather, examining the past from the vantage point of a different perspective that I or another therapist can help with, brings new insight and awareness that allows for healing and to alleviate some or all of the pain and suffering that one may have been holding onto.
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Sunday Aug 09, 2020
Sunday Aug 09, 2020
Compassion IS LOVE
The WISDOM podcast Season 2 Episode 16
TIMESTAMPS:
Podcast Intro: 0-2:08 | An Introduction to this Episode: Part Three in a Series of Six of Beautiful Guided Meditations: 2:14 | An Introduction to Compassion: 3:13 | Kindness and Love is so Powerful: 4:09 | When You Offer Yourself Compassion... 4:28 | There are Many Reasons to Practice Compassion: 5:23 | A Prose Meditation on Compassion 9:56 | Podcast Outro: 35:56
In this part three of a six-part series of beautiful guided meditations, I invite you to open your heart and your mind; to witness yourself and the world in ways that remind you of how kind and peaceful your presence can be; how soothing and comforting your actions are for yourself and others, when you choose to walk in your life with greater presence of what it means to hold compassion; to be compassionate towards yourself and all others, for this is how you are 'love in action'.
Special for this series, I have written a new meditation on the practice of compassion; and of how you may instinctively be of compassion to yourself and others.
There is no greater offering when someone is less fortunate or suffering than to be compassionate; to feel for them and their situation because this is how you offer care and kindness.
Compassion is love. It is in being compassionate that others are able to feel your genuine concern for their well being; and to hold even for a few moments, the space and the opportunity for them to know that they are not alone.
Your kindness and love is so powerful. It is this sacred action of compassion that allows others to rise up, to be heard, to heal, to take the right action for themselves.
When you offer yourself compassion, you breathe in giving yourself patience to recognize where you are in your life; and you choose to offer unto yourself this gift of kind reverence; of patience and comfort, of understanding, of reassurance that you are not alone; that you will feel better; that kindness directed within is how you help move yourself into a state of peace, responsibility to what is needed and comfort in the knowing of your presence.
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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell www.eternell.net/album/illuvia
Accompanying Music: Illuvia - Past Lives & Inner Worlds - Drupad
Sunday Oct 13, 2019
Sunday Oct 13, 2019
When Self-Soothing Becomes an Addiction
The WISDOM Podcast Season 1 Episode 3
TIMESTAMPS:
Podcast Intro: 0-1:32 | The Origins of Self-Soothing: 1:33 | What Do You Do to Self-Soothe? 4:46 | Self-Soothing as Self-Care and Self-Love: 5:36 | Habit Forming Activities that Soothe Children: 9:43 | Self-Soothing As A Coping Mechanism: 11:40 | The Power of Self-Soothing: 12:37 | Three Natural Sources of Self-Soothing: 20:13 | How to Live in Homeostatic Balance Using Your Breath: 23:41
From infancy, each of us has a natural inclination to self-soothe. Self soothing is a way of relaxing our central nervous system ~ of calming the body and mind ~ of experiencing relief and the absence of whatever stress we may be facing.
We experience self-soothing from our caregivers as touch, as love, as food and sustenance, and as a comfortable and safe environment. For example having the comfort of our favourite toys or blanket always available, a means of exploring our surroundings safely; and to feel secure knowing that our needs are always taken care of. Parents who are sensitive and attentive to their child's needs, and who also encourage their child to soothe themselves in healthy ways; foster these important abilities - of self-nourishment and self-care, learned from an early age.
As a child we instinctively look to calm our self in moments when we feel anxious, scared, angry, or sad. Learning to self-soothe is vital for healthy development and it is an important skill for nurturing emotional and physical well-being.
The ritual of self-soothing continues throughout life. How we are comforted and soothed as a child influences the habits that we adopt to soothe our self as adults. We often don't consider self-soothing as a strategy for feeling comfort, ease, and relief each time we feel anxiety, fear, sadness or any other unpleasant state; and yet it is perhaps the most important means of feeling better.
We may not make the direct connection between what we or our caregivers did to comfort and soothe our self in childhood, and what we continue to do today to alleviate tension, anxiety, fear; and to calm ourselves, to feel better, to escape momentarily from our life and to recover after uncomfortable, unpleasant, or threatening situations (usually situations where we have a lack of control, where there is conflict, or unrelenting stress; and in some cases - trauma).
Self-soothing tendencies can be a healthy form of self-regulation and a means of creating optimal balance between mind and body; if we choose behaviours that are helpful and healthy.
What do you do to self-soothe?
Consider for a moment what you instinctively do to make yourself feel better? to escape? to reward yourself? to cope when feeling pressure and stress? to unwind and relax?
The power of self-soothing lies in your ability to recognize the importance of being self-aware (mindful) of your needs at any given moment. When you are out of touch with, or not attending to your basic fundamental needs; or if you do what you've always done to self-soothe rather than take notice of what you truly need; and how you might best give this to yourself, you will likely resort to the well-learned strategies that are already in place; most of which originated out of what you were taught and perhaps what you developed out of necessity in order to evoke feeling a way that is desirable for you.
Three of the most readily available and natural sources of feeling 'in balance' and 'in control' as productive and healthy means of self-soothing are: exercise, sleep, and meditation (which can also include prayer).
As a special gift and practice, I invite you to experience this 15-Minute Meditation of focused awareness on your breath; and as a means of soothing self-regulation. Meditation also helps by modifying the brain's activity to achieve calmness, naturally. Consider this as a new skill that you develop with practice and patience; and as a helpful way to self-soothe- naturally.
Practical and Healthy Solutions for Self-Soothing:
a 15 Minute Meditation for Self-Soothing
Choosing to live in a state of optimal homeostatic balance helps bring to light the fact that self-soothing is a necessary and important life practice. Most ideal methods are quite simple and require very minimal effort to practice readily. You can begin to implement helpful self-soothing strategies as you learn how to be mindful; and by practising conscious awareness of how you feel and what you are in need of in any given moment.
One of the simplest and most powerful ways to self-soothe is to rely on your breath as a means of feeling calm and returning your attention to the present moment. In the present moment you can best assess how you feel and what your needs are; in the present moment there can never be anxiety, fear, or sadness because in the present you are simply being.
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Use your breath as a natural method of experiencing self-awareness. As you become experienced with conscious (mindful) breathing (as one simple yet helpful strategy), you begin to see that deliberate conscious breathing is a powerful means of helping you reestablish focus, of calming your body and mind, and for feeling soothed.
The enhanced awareness you experience from conscious breathing will also help you identify what you need in any given moment; so that you are able to provide this for yourself. Most of us need only the simplest of things when we feel stressed, worried, angered, or any other unwanted emotion. Any of your unhealthy choices are the automatic habits and unconscious actions that you had previously learned; and which have never truly been the right solution for feeling authentic happiness.
"Your breath is the connection between mind and body and it is also a way for you to cultivate a connection with and to experience the Divine (what we call God, Allah, Source, Universal Consciousness)." - dorothy
I'd also like to share with you the science of why taking a deep breath feels so good; and the many health benefits of making this a conscious practice in your daily life.
A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, A. Karneichuk.
Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell www.eternell.net/album/illuvia
Accompanying Music: 'To See' by Ludvig Cimbrelius
Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...
Namaste!