The Wisdom Podcast with Dorothy Ratusny
Hope For Each One of Us | The WISDOM podcast | Season 2 Episode 5 | with Dorothy Ratusny

Hope For Each One of Us | The WISDOM podcast | Season 2 Episode 5 | with Dorothy Ratusny

May 24, 2020

 

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Hope For Each One of Us

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 5

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:09  |  Episode Intro and a Little About My Experience and Training of Meditation: 2:13 |  Hope For The New Conditions of Our Lives and This Prose Meditation:  4:15  | HOPE Meditation: 6:46  |   Podcast Outro: 17:36 

 

 

In this week's episode, I wish to share with you a special meditation on hope. Hope for the new conditions of our lives that will move us into a kinder and more compassionate world; hope for each one of us as we surge forward, our lives ultimately changed and that we may embrace what change can be for the better, to lead us deeper into our selves and to the oneness of our beautiful nature as love in action.

Hope that as you are guided through this prose meditation; and as you settle in to a comfortable posture, let yourself be guided by my words and notice what impressions and insights arise for you.

 

A-HA MOMENTS:  Our lives are always meant to be of grace; of wonder; of the most privilege because this is our inherent state.

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  As much change as we are all experiencing right now, and during this time of a global pandemic; this meditation reminds us that hope needs to be present for the deliberate teachings of our heart; stirring, rising up; to be the messages that we honour for our new lives; for our lives always.

TRUTH SERUM:  Breathe in new life, new choices, new reasons for choosing to live in harmony with each other and the planet.  It is always possible to find peace; to choose what will sustain us.

love dorothy

 

 

*If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me.  You can find me at: dorothyratusny.com.

 

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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music:  Eternell: 'The Winds and the Wonder' and 'Zahara'

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

Reclaim Your Life: The Path to Living Awakened  | The WISDOM podcast | Season 2  Episode 4 | with Dorothy Ratusny

Reclaim Your Life: The Path to Living Awakened | The WISDOM podcast | Season 2 Episode 4 | with Dorothy Ratusny

May 17, 2020

 

Reclaim Your Life: The Path to Living Awakened

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 4

with Dorothy Ratusny

"Each time that you make a conscious effort to look for and see what 'is' (true), you shift yourself into present moment awareness; that is, you become awake and aware - mindful - for as long as you choose to live in this state." - dorothy ratusny

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:10  |  Introducing This Episode and The Secret to Reclaim Your Life: 2:11 |  How We All Have "Aha" Moments:  4:21  | My Client Mackenzie: 5:24  |  What Happens When You Are Not Fully Awake:  6:33  |  The Questions That Instantly Bring You Back Into The Present Moment:  9:34  |  How To Experience Your 'Flash of Light' Like Mackenzie:  11:29  |   Podcast Outro: 15:50  

 

There are not only single moments that you awaken to.  You live awake and aware as you live of the present moment.

In this episode of the wisdom podcast, I share with you one client's story that speaks to the remarkable way in which we all have 'aha' moments; moments of awakening to what is true and we also have a choice in those moments. 

We may choose how we will live - awake and aware, or in denial and avoidance, ignoring, not wanting to know; deliberating, telling our self whatever will help us to feel better temporarily even if it is not accurate.  I'd like you to listen to my client: Mackenzie's story, as she came to the liberating and powerful realization that her awakened state was more than a single moment and that she - like you, can choose a path of living awake and reclaiming life.

A-HA MOMENTS:  We are now encouraged as a planet to question everything; to return to what we know to be true and right and we can apply this awakened state of being to how we will live the rest of our life.

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  We are rediscovering what it means to direct the course of our life; to no longer live on automatic pilot doing what were told we should do by others who were also told this.

TRUTH SERUM: In today's brave new world, we are surrounded by the ability to choose with awareness; with living awake to our experiences and to what it means to choose consciously, mindfully and deliberate because living awake is also the precursor for living in your truth.

 

 

 

When you begin to ask questions of your inner nature; your highest self (your truth), and then to listen and acknowledge the answers that come; with some patience, you will likely also experience a flash of light, an ‘aha moment’, something similar to what Mackenzie described; that marks your awakened state, and the freedom to choose how you will now live your life.

This gateway into truth is completely yours to decide.  You may not approve of everything that you see with eyes wide open. Perhaps like Mackenzie and others, who go through a myriad of emotions including sadness and regret for living so much of their life in a habitual way that rarely honoured their own needs and desires, you too may feel remorse or self-loathing for what you are now discovering.

 

 

If you would like my help as you open yourself to living awake and to the ongoing commitment of being self-honest and wholly truthful, please reach out to me. Let me help.  You can find me at:  dorothyratusny.com

 love, dorothy

 

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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell 

Accompanying Music: Eternell 'Inner Song'

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

 

 

The Future Is Now | The WISDOM podcast |  Season 2 Episode 3 | with Dorothy Ratusny

The Future Is Now | The WISDOM podcast | Season 2 Episode 3 | with Dorothy Ratusny

May 10, 2020

 

The Future Is NOW

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 3

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

 

In this episode we continue to discuss the importance of this time in your life. (If you like, you may wish to listen to last week’s episode of Season 2, or any of the bonus episodes that closed out season one as we continue to navigate this new future that we are now stepping into.) Even as this episode is released months into this global pandemic of 2020, the messages that I share are omnipresent and incredibly important for when you listen; because now is the future.

 

A-HA MOMENTS:  For however you have been living your life up until this moment, you must realize that you have been choosing your future. 

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  What I want to emphasize and inspire at this time and in this brave new world that we are all being “rebirthed” into; is the absolute need for greater conscious choice; to wield the freedom that you hold, to inspire what you deeply desire; and to live fearless of this as you go and slay this; because you now understand that you are able to have everything that you have always wanted.

TRUTH SERUM:  What you have been wanting and waiting for is before you now. Now is the time to take new action. This time is unprecedented in our lives; and with it is the possibility for change and new beginnings of consciousness and of loving-kindness for all living beings. Now is the time to set in motion what you have been wanting for so long. Now is your time. It is the time for all of us to mobilize into action what is most wanted, and to step forth into this brave new world that we are living.

In this episode we continue to discuss the importance of this time in your life. (If you like, you may wish to listen to last week’s episode of Season 2, or any of the bonus episodes that closed out season one as we continue to navigate this new future that we are now stepping into.) Even as this episode is released months into this global pandemic of 2020, the messages that I share are omnipresent and incredibly important for when you listen; because now is the future.

For however you have been living your life up until this moment, you must realize that you have been choosing your future. What I want to emphasize and inspire at this time and in this brave new world that we are all being “rebirthed” into; is the absolute need for greater conscious choice; to wield the freedom that you hold, to inspire what you deeply desire; and to live fearless of this as you go and slay this; because you now understand that you are able to have everything that you have always wanted.

Everything that you will attain now comes with work and effort; but it is most possible. It comes with desire that must be steadfast and laser focused, and of course belief in your deserving of this.

 

Episode Resources and More Love:

Video link: (For Challenging and Changing Your Thoughts)

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love, dorothy 

 

 

*If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me.  You can find me at: dorothyratusny.com.

 

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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell 

Accompanying Music: Illuvia. Album: Past Lives and Inner Worlds. 'Sahar', 'Via I', 'Juli 31', 'Khalani'

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

How Will I Use This Time to Forever Change My Life for the Better? | The WISDOM podcast | S2 E2 | with Dorothy Ratusny

How Will I Use This Time to Forever Change My Life for the Better? | The WISDOM podcast | S2 E2 | with Dorothy Ratusny

May 3, 2020

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How Will I Use This Time to Forever Change My Life for the Better?

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 2

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:12  |  As Humans, It is Natural for Us to Attempt to Make Sense of Our Experiences and What Happens 'to us': 2:16 |  You Need To Decide:  4:33  | This Time is Presenting For Each One of Us:  5:53  |  How to Make Decisions That are Best for You Right Now:  8:22  |  Ask Yourself 'The Question':  12:43  |  Every One Of Us is Experiencing This Different and New 'Time':  13:47  |  We Are All Being Called to Rise Up:  14:32  |  What Does It Mean to Rebirth:  18:08 |  You Do Not Have to Wait Any Longer:  21:38  |  This Question will Save Your Life:  25:01  |  A Few Further Questions to Contemplate:  29:31  |   Your Personal Question List: 33:16  |  What Do You Want Most For Yourself and Your Life?  39:54  |  A Loving Afterward and My Personal Answers to the Question I Asked:  41:05  |  Podcast Outro: 43:01  

 

This time is presenting for each one of us; a challenge to live in our truth; to no longer do what we have always done, to continue in what has not served our highest self. For some this means a radical change in how you will think about and live life; and for others it will be more of a fine tuning; of what we have already begun, to ensure that we do not stop, that we follow through; that we fight for – that is we decide and never give up on – what is truly wanted.

In this episode of the wisdom podcast, we dive deep; we do some serious questioning to reveal what is most important for you right now. Because once you have decided what is most important; what you truly want for your life; and for how you want to be in your life; then you can slay it; you can make it happen.

A-HA MOMENTS:  This is the time to release yourself from your perceived limits, accept and embrace the divine mystery of life as you connect through the deeper wisdom of your heart and the infinite knowing within.

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  As humans it is natural for us to attempt to make sense of our experiences and what happens ‘to us’. Our intellect strives to find logical explanation for all that we encounter. The truth is that life, death, and the divine are larger concepts than we can ultimately comprehend. To experience a prophetic life and the divine, we must use our heart.

TRUTH SERUM: Only the heart has the capacity to witness and feel the monumental truth at the core of all tragedy and beauty because only the heart can experience absolute union with the essence of all things, through being able to directly connect us with the divine. The heart knows and accepts all things as perfect.

 

This is a time for releasing yourself from what limits you set in your mind. Things may not make sense at this time but that may be because you are looking through a logical filter rather than filtering what you feel and know through your heart. Life, the divine and our own psyches have natural rhythms; it is only in connection to the heart, the gut, and the overall intuitive nature of the body that we make sense of these rhythms and of the overarching (dominating or embracing all else) flow of life.

 

This episode reminds you that you need to decide; and your decision must be absolute; clear, certain so that you can make what you have decided - your new reality. How you employ the universal law of attraction; how you manifest anything is by first deciding. In this time of uncertainty, confusion, fear, perhaps grief and sadness, stress and anxiety; its time to begin making the decisions that will allow you to rise up; to live the rest of your life empowered, free, and in the full experience of your innate happiness – because you are choosing it.

 

This time – this moment - right now is the time for you to flip the switch; to step into what your new reality needs to be. It doesn’t mean changing everything; it means deciding what is most important for how you will live the rest of your life. That’s it. Decide it.

Get laser focus clear about what you most want and then you can begin to live this. Most of us get caught up in aiming to figure out all of the steps before we get started; or to contemplate how difficult it might be to carry out a new habit, behaviour or life practice when really change is about decision making.

It’s about deciding what is right and best for you; congruent with the feeling that comes from this certainty and inner knowing that you practice and hone each time you go within for your answers; and then as you follow this inner wisdom; as you see that it always guides you towards what will be your greatest source of happiness; you – living fulfilled and a life of purpose and meaning.

 

For a list of the questions that I have posed in this episode, please download this pdf.  Answering these questions will help you to have the kind of relationship with yourself that inspires confidence, self-compassion, and conscious truth-seeking; and that propels you towards the life that you were always meant to live.

love, dorothy 

 

 

*If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me.  You can find me at: dorothyratusny.com.

 

Find all Episodes here: https://www.dorothyratusny.com/wisdompodcast/

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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell 

Accompanying Music: Eternell. 'Dawn', 'Surface of a Stream', 'Planes'

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

In this episode, I wish to reference beautiful words to help express a message that is so important.  In the opening lines of this episode, I gratefully draw upon some of the beautiful messages and teachings that have been written by Carisa Mellado of Blue Angel Publishing.  Thank you Carisa for your inspiring words; of filtering our thoughts and the limits we may hold, and instead to connect with the deeper wisdom of our heart.  Namaste! xo

A Time of Rebirth and Awakening; of Love and Humanity and of the Earth  |  The WISDOM podcast  |  Season 2 Episode 1

A Time of Rebirth and Awakening; of Love and Humanity and of the Earth | The WISDOM podcast | Season 2 Episode 1

April 26, 2020

 

 

A Time of Rebirth and Awakening; of Love and Humanity and of the Earth

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2  Episode 1

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:09  |  Welcome and Intro to this Episode: 2:13 |  Questions to Guide You In Visualization of Your Rebirth and Awakening: 5:38  | How Do You Live Awake in This Rebirth of Your Life?  16:29  |  Podcast Outro:  28:57 

 

In this first episode of a brand new season, I have something special to share with you.  As we are in a time in which the world is continuing to pause; to take a step or two back to hold our breath as we anticipate the future, this is a perfect time to consider that we are living in a time of spiritual awakening.

For this we must look within for our 'right' knowing; to remember how our individual actions affect each another and the planet; and to honour and respect all living beings as we live in peace.

This episode of The WISDOM podcast offers a guided journey; one that invites you to open your mind and heart; to witness your inner wisdom and to ask the questions of yourself; of how you may 'rebirth' into this new life we are being called to live.

As you listen, you may wish to record some notes as you answer the questions, and as you witness the presence of your highest self in communication with you.

TRUTH SERUM:  This future; the future of your heart and your instinctive yearning to create; to pursue your interests and to live of these; to forge a path; to no longer wait; to begin now; and to believe in your self.  All of these require a vision and a willingness to live true to yourself.  

A-HA MOMENTS:  You have been given a time of rebirth, a restart, a return to what is infinitely important.  An awakening is what you open yourself unto.  It is a re-examination of how you have been thinking and living up until now, and the permission to step into a new way of being; leading with your heart.

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  We lead with a guided visualization to open your mind and heart.  Let this be the path for you to rebirth yourself; to continue to awaken, and to be of love, compassion, and kindness unto yourself, others, and all of humanity.  Use this practice often; as a meditation, and guided visualization, that prompts you to answer the questions that will allow your inner voice to rise up and assist you.

In this episode, I guide you through the progressive steps of bringing your consciousness to life; with questions that will open your mind and heart towards what is most wanted. 

I want you to feel the confidence of what is possible as you then take each step.  I hope that you will return to this practice daily as it becomes a tool for visioning your future; your choices, and the means by which you will rebirth yourself and awaken.

 

If you would like a list of the questions that I ask in this episode, to guide your journey of awakening, please find the link to the PDF here.  Please have a look at the other resources below for additional guided practices, specific meditations and further audio recordings of love (and rebirth) ....from me to you. Namaste!

 

love, dorothy

 

*Additional Resources for Awakening and Rebirth (From Me to You 💜)

Rain: A Meditation of Rebirth

AWAKENING

Reclaim Your Life: The Path to Living Awakened

I AM Love in All Moments: A Prose Meditation

A Meditation for Living with Your Heart Open

This Too Shall Pass: COVID-19 Wisdom for What is Important At This Time

From Fear to Love: Three Best Practices for Spiritual Mindfulness in a World with COVID-19

 

 

*If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me.  You can find me at: dorothyratusny.com.

 

Find all Episodes here: https://www.dorothyratusny.com/wisdompodcast/

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Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell. From the Album 'Gray Havens': Ocean Waves

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

The WISDOM podcast - Season Two Trailer with Dorothy Ratusny

The WISDOM podcast - Season Two Trailer with Dorothy Ratusny

April 19, 2020

The WISDOM podcast - Season Two Trailer with Dorothy Ratusny

Highlighting some of the most listened to episodes from Season One and sharing what is to come in this new season as we step it up; dedicating each episode to all that you need right now to support you in your decision to thrive; and to live as your best self in each moment of each day, with ease and confidence. 

Excel in life by your definition as you live with certainty of all that you desire most; and with the knowledge of how to make your desires - your lived reality

 

I can't wait to share all of this brand new season of The WISDOM podcast with you!  

Each episode is released; always on Sunday at 8pm EST and always with love; from me to you...

Namaste!

 

love, dorothy

 

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

From Fear to Love: Three Best Practices for Spiritual Mindfulness In A World With COVID-19 | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1  Bonus Episode 3

From Fear to Love: Three Best Practices for Spiritual Mindfulness In A World With COVID-19 | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Bonus Episode 3

April 6, 2020

  

From Fear to Love: Three Best Practices for Spiritual Mindfulness In A World With COVID-19

The WISDOM podcast  Season 1  Bonus Episode 3

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:10  |   Episode Dedication: 2:14 |  When You Live In Fear, This is What Happens: 3:39  | The First Best Practice to Alleviate Fear:  5:42  |  Questions to Ask Yourself to Bring You Into the Present Moment:  8:53 |  The Second Best Practice to Alleviate Fear  13:53  |  The Third Best Practice to Alleviate Fear:  16:43  |  What it Feels Like to Feel Love: 18:06 |  How to Live As Love as Your State of Being - A Meditative Practice:  20:38  |  Podcast Outro:  26:11 

 

Here, I share with you the research-based knowledge of how to alleviate fear and how you may choose to live as love in far more moments of your life.   Namaste!  xo

In this health pandemic, there is a lot of information that can heighten your fear; the overloading of information some of it inaccurate, some of it truthful; can still cause you to feel fearful when you have not previously. Sometimes, as you seek to have all of the right knowledge and information; focusing on the finding and having of facts can cause hypervigilence - acute focus on this problem even if your facts can now offer ideas for what you need to do. It is only when you are fixated on a problem that worries surface: your mind directed towards what is unwanted and what causes you to suffer.

TRUTH SERUM: There is a great deal of luxury in fear. In fear you are not focused on improving your life, because your focus is on what you do not want and what you believe will be a worst case scenario. You tell yourself "What if..." and complete this sentence with the “what” that you don’t want to have happen. Fear keeps you locked in feelings of powerlessness; your worry of the future causes you to ultimately lose your life in the present moment; unaware of the power that you have to focus on what is wanted.

A-HA MOMENTS:  I want to show you how to alleviate fear; and to explain how you may move from a place of fear about anything, into one of knowledge, truth, and a focus on what is desired and wanted, and then to build upon this further into a state of love; of calm, knowing right action, and perseverance (of a plan and the steps that are needed to help you stay on course towards what you desire and to feel confidence (as you mobilize yourself and take right action), and of purpose (of accomplishing constructive behaviours and feeling the relief of fear). This is possible for each one of us – of all ages; to do for our self.

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  This is not about conquering your fear. We need to feel fear because it has a purpose if experienced for the right reasons. The ‘right’ reasons include a real threat that then allows you to mobilize yourself in safety and care. Perceived or imagined fears are psychological and are not necessarily based in real and factual information. When you experience the feeling of fear based upon your worries of a future moment that has not yet or may never happen; the feeling is real, although the fear is not based in absolute truth. And there is a difference.

 

 

In fear, you have lost control; you have let go of the threads that weave together your life so beautifully; this intricate and necessary tapestry that supports you in all of the moments of your life; – evades you when you are in fear. When you are in fear, you do not notice the love in the eyes of your partner, you miss out on the feeling of love that is present in the hug that your child gives eagerly; you see the robin scanning the path in front of you as it runs hurriedly over the earth before lifting its wings in flight, easing itself upward to sit on a branch of a tree; but you are not able to give any of this your full attention because you are trapped inside your mind, dwelling on what keeps you locked in worry and fear.

 

1. Your first step to alleviate fear; fear of this present global health crisis or any fear that you are consumed by, is akin to the analogy that you must cast yourself a life buoy and then observe intently as you are securely pulled to safety. Your life buoy is a metaphor for your ability to pull yourself into the present moment.

 

This is not about conquering your fear. We need to feel fear because it has a purpose if experienced for the right reasons. The ‘right’ reasons include a real threat that then allows you to mobilize yourself in safety and care. Perceived or imagined fears are psychological and are not necessarily based in real and factual information. When you experience the feeling of fear based upon your worries of a future moment that has not yet or may never happen; the feeling is real, although the fear is not based in absolute truth. And there is a difference.

 

In this health pandemic, there is a lot of information that can heighten your fear; the overloading of information some of it inaccurate, some of it truthful; can still cause you to feel fearful when you have not previously. Sometimes, as you seek to have all of the right knowledge and information; focusing on the finding and having of facts can cause hypervigilence - acute focus on this problem even if your facts can now offer ideas for what you need to do. It is only when you are fixated on a problem that worries surface: your mind directed towards what is unwanted and what causes you to suffer.

 

I want to show you how to alleviate fear; and to explain how you may move from a place of fear about anything, into one of knowledge, truth, and a focus on what is desired and wanted, and then to build upon this further into a state of love; of calm, knowing right action, and perseverance (of a plan and the steps that are needed to help you stay on course towards what you desire and to feel confidence (as you mobilize yourself and take right action), and of purpose (of accomplishing constructive behaviours and feeling the relief of fear). This is possible for each one of us – of all ages; to do for our self.

 

The first best practice is to move yourself into the present moment. A way to define the present is to ask of yourself, “What do I need in this moment?” This is a profoundly important question because it brings your attention from wherever your mind is focused into now; because you need to be able to assess yourself from the present moment to know what you need. This is how you direct your brain to focus in the present. Another question that brings your attention into the present is to ask: “How Do I Want to Feel Now?” With either answer in mind, you continue by next asking, “For what I need, how can I give this to myself now?” Or in the case of the second question, for how I want to feel, “What thoughts will allow me to feel this feeling?” and then, decide what those thoughts are, and write them. Return to these thoughts when your mind becomes focused again onto what is less helpful.

 

For whatever you need and for how you want to feel; as you focus your mind in the present moment, you will be able to provide for yourself what is wanted. Here, it is important to follow through; to answer your questions and then to act on these as it keeps you engaged in the presence of your life. For example, What are the thoughts that will allow me to feel calm? Then to write these, and to say your thoughts aloud so that you can hear your own voice comforting you as you observe your desired feelings of calm rise up. For example, “I am beginning to feel calm”, “I am working towards calm now”, and “I am calm.”

 

The emotion of fear is felt whenever you recall and focus on a past situation in which you experienced fear. Fear is most likely to surface when you are anticipating a future unwanted moment that has not yet or may never happen.

 

It’s not thinking about a piece of factual information that causes fear; its thinking new thoughts about this information based in the future – of something that is unwanted and that causes fear, worry and panic.  So learning about COVID-19 for example, and how best to support yourself and your family -as long as this is factual and from reliable sources-  is not the problem; its the thoughts that come next – that cause you to become afraid, worried, and that immobilize you that are the problem. So its okay to take in information; its most important how you think about this information that will either evoke fear or an entirely different feeling; one of reassurance and relief. Your resolve towards what is most wanted which then propel you to take the steps towards this.

 

2. The second strategy or best practice for alleviating fear is to focus on taking action based on what is wanted. You remain in the feeling of fear when you are focused on an undesired outcome.  If you think about what you don’t want; what you are fearful of, what worries you of the future; your attention and focus is going to be entirely on the very thing that you do not want.

 

"Fear lies in the future unknown. It is extinguished when you are of this moment." - dorothy ratusny 

 

To eliminate fear, you must focus on having factual information that educates and then mobilizes you to take the right action towards what you desire; to best protect yourself and your family, to avoid others as much as possible through social distancing, and to be self-disciplined in the need for self-quarantine or self-isolation if you have travelled, or if you have flu-like symptoms until you feel well again. 

*Trusted sources for COVID-19 updates and facts: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the World Health Organization (WHO).  

 

Rather than hold thoughts that cause you worry, focus on what positive action you will take and do this. Assertive action will cause you to feel encouraged, relief, reassured, empowered, and even calm and happy.

 

When you focus on what is not wanted or a worse case scenario, you will feel anxiety, fear and even panic. It isn’t that you can’t think about you fears, its simply that doing so is not going to help you. Your best decision is to use the accurate information that you have gathered to make proactive and wise decisions for yourself and your family. And then to take action and continue this positive action towards what is desired.

 

This includes problem solving, choosing to hold reassuring thoughts and to speak these with others. What can you tell yourself and say out loud in the presence of others that will be reassuring and uplifting? You may also want to write these and to remind yourself of what is most helpful.

 

3. Finally, let me show you how to move out of fear into love:

You know how fear feels. We all have felt it. Fear of something imagined or real (such as this global health crisis) remains your reality for as long as you choose to focus on the future worse case outcome rather than focus on the present moment and what you are doing now to achieve what is your ideal or desired outcome.

 

Remember the strategies we’ve just discussed and the first best practice: to focus on how you want to feel and then to decide what you need to think or do to feel this – now. You can also identify what you need in this moment to feel calm, secure, safe or any other desired feeling; and then seek this out, whether to calm yourself, to enjoy an activity in the present moment, to learn, to laugh, to enjoy being with your family, and to do your best to remain healthy; to take every precaution that you can, and to have faith and belief in a global positive outcome for all of us.

 

You also know how it feels to feel love. Try it with me now. Close your eyes. Say it for yourself. What do I love? What simple joys, pleasures do you love? Who do I love? Notice what feelings rise up. Choose to focus for a little longer, here, in the space of what love feels like. Allow yourself to enjoy this feeling, to notice where in your body you feel the energy of love; to live in this feeling; to describe to yourself what the feeling of love feels like.

 

As you make the decision to live more of your life in the space of feeling the feelings of love; whether by thinking about those that you love, or what you love and feel appreciation for; what allows you to feel joy; and to witness the feeling of love and joy felt throughout your being. You can also begin to evoke love as a state that you live in of being as you live as and to live from your heart more of the time, to step out of the busy nature of your mind and to live intuitively – in the present moment, and of your heart. Let me show you how you can live as love as a way of being. It’s a simple heart opening meditative practice that will allow you to feel full with love.

 

As you close your eyes, imagine a beautiful light in your heart centre (use image). Give this light a colour. What colour best represents for you the colour of light and the energy of love? See this colour glowing in your heart center.

 

As you give this light you attention, you realize that it is always present, always a part of you in all moments. Maybe before now you were not conscious of it but it has always been with you. Now when you wish to deliberately live out of your heart – see, imagine, and visualize this light within glowing, and expansive. You may also begin to witness it filling the area of your chest and expanding outward, filling your entire body. Notice the vibration of energy that you feel as you see and imagine the energy of your heart moving outward.

 

This is your reminder of the energy of love that you hold within and that you allow yourself to be by choice. As you hold this image and the feeling of this energy, you witness it as a sacred part of you. Remember this energy – and the feeling of love as it rises up – expansive and throughout your being. Come back to it in all moments that you want to feel this love. This is what you are.

 

At this time in our lives, we all need to make the decision from where we will live; whether in a state of love, where we can share our loving nature with others by choice; through loving words and actions and as we choose to make responsible, educated decisions (and as you do so, to do so) out of love and the desire for what is wanted, as you hold faith and belief that your actions guided in the right way, will allow you to achieve all of what is most desired.

 

If you would like to have more practice in experiencing yourself in a state of love – please have a look at the links I’ll leave for you here, (in the transcript notes) for additional guided practices, specific meditations and further audio recordings of love from me to you.

 

love, dorothy

 

*Resources for Activating Love From Within: (From Me to You 💜)

The 7 Habits of Self-Love

I AM Love in All Moments: A Prose Meditation

A Meditation for Living with Your Heart Open

This Too Shall Pass: COVID-19 Wisdom for What is Important At This Time

3 Self-Love Practices that You Need to Know

 

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Elevation' 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

An Important Message To All Families During COVID-19: Use This Time to Reconnect and Love | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Bonus Episode 2

An Important Message To All Families During COVID-19: Use This Time to Reconnect and Love | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Bonus Episode 2

March 26, 2020

 

An Important Message For All Families During COVID-19: Use This Time To Reconnect and Love

The WISDOM podcast   Season 1  Bonus Episode 2

with Dorothy Ratusny

This podcast is dedicated to all of the people who ceaselessly work in medical care around the world, who are committed to their service and care; and the best possible treatment of all people who have been affected by the Coronavirus and all other illnesses that they help with on a daily basis.  We commend you.  We could not survive in the world without your help and care of the greater whole. 

 

As you are home with your children; as you are social distancing; that is, avoiding as much as possible all contact with others who do not live in your home and as some of you have been self-isolating in quarantine after testing positive for COVID-19. These next several weeks in front of you can remain a challenge for as long as you focus on what is lacking.

When you shift your consciousness into one of acceptance, forgiveness for what you have limited control over, compassion, loving-kindness, and of course gratitude, you have chosen to embrace where you are in this moment. Where you are is not of needing anything except to exist as kindness, compassion and love in action.

 

As you are together with your family at home, consider this time as one of immense blessing. You raise your level of consciousness by first being aware – mindful – of your family dynamics. Are you interacting in harmony? Is there a sense of ease and enjoyment when you are all together and in the present moment for whatever activities and dialogue is occurring; and even as each member of the family may be enjoying different things. Are you co-existing with enjoyment of one another?

If not, what can you do to practice acceptance, inclusivity, and connection?

This time is an opportunity for all of you to find each other; to learn about and know one another in ways that you have not, or in ways that are new and different.

I’d like to give you 3 questions. You can use these questions as points of conversation with your family at home; and if your children are a little older, invite them into this conversation. Listen to their answers. Let yourselves have a dialogue as equal members of your beautiful family. You can open this dialogue as you speak with or have video calls with extended family members.

The choice is up to you how you may engage in this incredible new way of being; of building connection, of deepening the expression of love felt amongst everyone.

This may be an entirely new practice for all of you; or perhaps something that will continue to nourish and deepen the connection that exists. This current global experience has imprinted upon us new choices for directing our love and for being love.

There are 3 questions. You may have others. You may allow your children to open to this honest, sacred dialogue to ask you a question, or for you to ask of them. Remember to also honour each person’s intimate right to privacy and ask with love and the desire to build and strengthen your existing relationship. Something else that family may do during this time is to establish new practices and ways of being with each other.

For example, honouring time as a family to engage with one another each day – to have a meal, or to cook together, and to decide and uphold new ways of being that honour each member’s right to receive kindness, love, to listen attentively when they speak, to seek understanding first, and to offer encouragement and love above all else for all situations.

You have been given this gift of time to be together in a most unusual but perfect way that you may never experience again. You must make this time sacred and loving if you are to all flourish and to emerge stronger, closer; more in tune with each other’s needs and desires and to know and understand each other better.

 

Here are the 3 questions to ask; to share thoughts and impressions, to hold as points of conversation as you engage with your heart.

1: How can I be more loving? ...as a parent? ...as a child? ...sibling? ...grandparent?

Repeat this question aloud in front of your family and then answer it for them.

2: What do you need more of from me?

Take turns asking this of each other and allowing for honest, candid answers that all of you listen to without a word in reply. Just take in the answers you received, accepting them as they are and wherever possible, record your answers from each family member so that you may reflect upon how you may do this. Truly receiving an answer means that you do not question or challenge it – or offer a reason why you cannot do this. You just take in what response is given to you with acceptance and willingness to listen – to allow the other person to feel heard.

3: What am I grateful for right now?

This question reminds us all of the good that exists. Be even more observant of this during this time and allow yourself to speak of your gratitude often.

And finally, a word for all of you who have family members in parts of the world where it is very unsafe at this time; perhaps you have family members infected or who have passed because of this virus. Do something. Send them your love. It does not change what has already happened but it does keep them in comfort knowing of your thoughts and prayers and of your generous love of them. That is most important right now. Of course you already are doing what else you can for them, but be more deliberate and clear of your ongoing messages of love that they need to hear now.


 

Would you like to hear some of the answers to the 3 questions that I am giving to you? If you are comfortable to do so, please share some of these profoundly honest and heartfelt answers, so that others too may hear of their benefit. I thank you all for being willing to make wise use of this time that you have – your life paused; to embrace connection and to love deeply and to carry this new way of being into the rest of your life. Namaste!

 

For more information on my services or to work with me, please be in touch.

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Gray Havens' 1 hr 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

The Psychology of Alleviating Fear: The COVID-19 Crisis | The WISDOM podcast | Bonus Episode 01

The Psychology of Alleviating Fear: The COVID-19 Crisis | The WISDOM podcast | Bonus Episode 01

March 26, 2020

The Psychology of Alleviating Fear: The COVID-19 Crisis

The WISDOM podcast  Season 1  BONUS Episode 01

with Dorothy Ratusny

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-1:33  |   Podcast Dedication:  1:34 |  Episode Overview   2:24  | How Your Fears Are Tested:  5:41  |  First Best Practice: Educate Yourself:  6:58 |  Second Best Practice: Be Proactive and Responsible in Your Decision Making:  7:59  |  Third Best Practice: Hold Belief, Have Faith, Be Optimistic and Positive:  8:41   |  An Effective Practice to Alleviate Your Irrational Fears About Anything:  9:46  |  How You Perpetuate Fear:  10:39  |  How Your Actions Have a Ripple Effect:  12:11  |  What Allows You to Feel Safe?  12:45  |  What Will Help Psychologically At This Time:  13:12  |  CBT Best Practices for Alleviating Fear:  14:41  |  How Do I Protect Myself From Coronavirus:  15:38  | Self-Awareness and Tools For Alleviating Fear:  17:17  |  Questions to Evolve Consciousness:  18:26  |  What Are Wet Markets?  19:34  |  Your Tendency to Be Fearful Based on Three Factors:  21:32  |  I wish for all of you...  23:00  |  Podcast Outro:  23:40

This podcast is dedicated to all of the people who ceaselessly work in medical care around the world, who are committed to their service and care; and the best possible treatment of all people who have been affected by the Coronavirus and all other illnesses that they help with on a daily basis.  We commend you.  We could not survive in the world without your help and care of the greater whole.  

TRUTH SERUM: "You will always find formative information to support your fears; the challenge is to instead seek the truth."  - dorothy ratusny

A-HA MOMENTS: Faced with a global health crisis such as Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19) your latent fears are tested. If you are someone that lives in the experience of anxiety and fear on a daily basis, this global  pandemic outbreak has likely exacerbated your level of fear immensely.  How you continue to react, and the thoughts and perceptions that you hold, become heightened responses of your existing predisposition to fear.

PRACTICAL WISDOM: To alleviate fear you must first challenge the thoughts and perceptions that evoke fear.  You do this by holding factual, reliable information, as you wield the power of your mind; visualizing with certainty what is most desired; together with the action steps you take towards this.

 

We all have a fundamental need to be safe and healthy.  We also need to believe that we have real and tangible ways in which to ensure our well being.  Thus, this current health crisis, challenges us to seek factual and reliable information; to not be distracted and overwhelmed by fear mongering, to seek out evidence to disprove any irrational fear that arises, and to continue to act in a way that ensures we make the best and safest choices.

 

To alleviate fear in this (or any) situation, your first mandate and best practice is always to educate yourself.  Seek facts and accurate information; and from this place of knowledge and understanding, focus on the best strategies that will allow you to continue to care for yourself and your family. (Use reliable, credible sources, and refrain from being hyper-fixated, as this may cause you to feel anxious or overwhelmed.  Instead, let your knowledge help you to feel confident and reassured as you have the right information to now take the steps that will ensure you continue to be cautious and safe). 

(Credible sources include: The World Health Organization – WHO, The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention – CDC, and in Canada, the Public Health Service).  

 

Second, be proactive and responsible in your decision making. Take the best course of action that allows you to be safe and that upholds ethical responsibility for yourself, your family and the collective whole.  In a global health crisis, we all need to make the best possible decisions, so as to not put our self (or others) at risk.  (For example, to practice good hygiene, to work from home if this is an option; and to practice social distancing as much as possible as we continue to learn more). Read here how school closings and self-quarantines saves lives.

 

Third; to alleviate fear, as you align your actions with your desired outcome (for example, to remain healthy), hold belief; have faith, be optimistic and positive in your thinking, and in the opinions that you hold.  As you make the best informed decisions based on gathering accurate information; and as you take 'right action' towards what is most wanted; hold resolve and belief in this desired outcome. 

As you hold belief and faith in your well being, and as you direct your focus to what is wanted (maintaining good health/recovering successfully if you have the virus); you reduce fear, reaffirm positive action, and confidence in your ability to stay healthy (and the continued steps that you are taking towards your desired outcome).

 

*If you are someone who typically dwells on a worst case scenario; an effective practice to  alleviate and appease your fears is to challenge yourself to find facts and evidence that dispel irrational thoughts and beliefs.  Having accurate information (based in truth) allows you to take precautions, to make good decisions, and to feel reassured that you are doing what is the best possible practice.  It is also important to be ultra cautious in this current environment so that we may avoid contracting the disease, and thus slow its spread; and therefore, not overload our health care system(s).  This is what is called: 'flatten the curve'.

flatten the curve graph - COVID-19

 

If you seek out random (and unsupported) information that supports what you are most fearful of, you perpetuate the feeling of fear, and you compromise your ability to make best decisions.  The best practice is to find and focus on factual truth, and to be proactive in the steps you take.  In this health crisis, there will be facts that may frighten you; and yet to know the truth is how you can then make the best decisions (out of this factual knowledge) for yourself and your family. 

 

Without factual information, you tend to either ignore or downplay what is important, or find yourself in a state of perpetual fear because of your hypervigilance on what is not completely accurately nor true.

Do you part. 

Take the steps now to keep yourself and your family safe and healthy; to be aware of what global strategies and positive actions are in place; including what helpful and necessary efforts have been mobilized to begin testing a vaccine to effectively prevent others from becoming sick, and to contain spread of infection. 

Now is also the time to think about how your actions have a ripple effect.

We are all interdependent on one another. Think of the impact of your actions on all others as you take precautionary and safe measures; and as you continue to implement best practices for the future (e.g. good hygiene and self-care strategies to strengthen your immune system).

From all of the factual, reliable information that you have gathered, what allows you to feel safe in this environment?  Take this action.  For example, It is critically important that you practice social distancing as much as possible to dramatically slow the rate at which the infection is spreading. 

What will help you psychologically during this time is to do your best to continue in a healthy routine which includes ample sleep, exercise, healthy eating; focusing on important daily tasks and obligations; and to live as much as possible with normalcy and awareness.

 

Now is also the perfect time to reexamine your health practices; your ability to receive ample sleep, to consume healthful, whole (and organic) foods; to exercise, practice effective stress management, and to meditate.  *All of these help keep your immune system strong.  This health crisis raises awareness for what new practices will improve your lifestyle and the way in which you value your health - and your life.

 

You alleviate fear when you challenge your fear-based thoughts and beliefs.  Fear can be triggered by some aspects of truth, however you diminish fear when you focus on the whole truth and as you act on the side of caution; putting in place a strategy of best practices that come out of your research and fact finding that is based on accurate and updated information.

 

Cognitive Therapy Best Practice for Alleviating Fear:

 

STEP 1: When you feel anxiety or fear, immediately identify the thoughts that you were thinking prior to feeling anxious or fearful.  Your thoughts are always the key to why you feel the way you do. 

 

STEP 2: Challenge your thoughts.  CHANGE your thoughts to reflect what is true and accurate. What you tell yourself, you believe.  This is why it is so important that you challenge the thoughts that create anxiety and fear, and to replace them with factual information of what is true.

 

Here Are Some Helpful Facts to Keep in Mind as You Focus on What is True:

How Do I Protect Myself from Coronavirus?

The steps that will protect you from Coronavirus will also protect you from influenza and many other common illnesses. Here are the recommendations from the Centers for Disease Control and World Health Organization.

• Wash hands often for at least 20 seconds
• Use hand sanitizers when water isn't available
• Use disinfecting wipes to clean surfaces
• Stay home if you feel unwell
• Cover your nose and mouth when you cough and sneeze
• Avoid touching your eyes, nose and mouth with unwashed hands

 

How Does Coronavirus Compare to Influenza? (Commonly called 'the flu').

Influenza is a viral infection that attacks your respiratory system — your nose, throat and lungs.

The number of seasonal flu deaths vastly outnumber deaths from Coronavirus. The CDC estimates that 9.7 million people have gotten the flu this season, including an estimated 4,800 deaths and 87,000 hospitalizations. While the flu might seem like a relatively minor disease because it's so common, complications from the flu, which can include pneumonia, bronchitis, asthma flare-ups and heart problems, can be deadly.

 

 

Self-Awareness and Introspection as Tools for Alleviating Fear:
Questions that you may wish to ask as you mobilize yourself out of fear and into informed consciousness:

Use these questions for contemplation and self-reflection; as questions that you record and write your answers to, as a helpful means to explore and understand - and to best alleviate your fears. 

Express your feelings with complete honesty as this will allow you to find resolution and the right answers to help.  When you stop and reconnect with yourself; and as you create the space to be quiet and thoughtful; you allow for answers and intuitive guidance from your highest self.  Writing is a direct way to communicate with your self.  

 

What specific fears is this health crisis evoking for me? 

Do I think of others and myself as a shared community? 

Has my awareness of global unity and consciousness, expanded? 

Do I feel compassion for those who have innocently become ill or have died because of the Coronavirus? 

What new health conscious habits will I now practice as the result of this crisis? 

What am I teaching my children about compassion and non judgment; and of the humane treatment of all living beings? 

Do I choose to hold greater consciousness of the actions that I take, and the compassionate practices that will sustain the planet during my lifetime and beyond? 

Do I know about wet markets (places where fish, poultry and other animals are slaughtered and butchered on the premises) in Asia and throughout the world; (and where one wet market in particular in Wuhan, China is believed as a probable source of the current Coronavirus outbreak?

Does this information raise my level of consciousness of how animals (as living beings) are treated?

 

Researchers of zoonotic diseasesdiseases that jump from animals to humans – pinpoint the wet markets in mainland China as particularly problematic for several reasons.  First, these markets often have many different kinds of animals – some wild, some domesticated but not necessarily native to that part of Asia.  The stress of captivity in these chaotic markets weakens the animals' immune systems and creates an environment where viruses from different species can mingle, swap bits of their genetic code and spread from one species to another, according to Biologist Kevin Olival, vice president for research at the EcoHealth Alliance. When that happens, occasionally a new strain of an animal virus gets a foothold in humans and an outbreak like this current Coronavirus erupts.

 

Watch the Video: Join me for some inspiring words and wisdom for what how you may best approach living right now.

 

Your Tendency to be Fearful is Based on Three Factors:

(1) Self-Confidence = confidence in oneself and in one's powers and abilities (2) Self-Reliance = having confidence in and exercising one's own powers or judgment and (3) The degree to which we can set the bar high in what is our Invincibility.  In other words, how good are you at believing in your ability to be safe, healthy, cared for; and that you will continue to experience positive situations as you cultivate these by choice?

 

 

Fear tasks you with the effort to rely on educating yourself; to seek right answers and best practices as solutions; and to raise the bar in how you choose to live life, as you seek to become a better version of yourself (because you can). Teach yourself to overcome fears that are illogical and irrational by challenging your fear-based thoughts; by focusing on the truth, and by living an extraordinary life of your choosing.

 

For more information on my services or to work with me, please be in touch.

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

 

Additional Resources:

Cognitive Therapy Best Practices

The Three Best Self-Love Practices

A Mindfulness Practice to Experience Your Body's Wisdom

 

 

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Elevation' 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

 

Do You Let Love In? How To Feel Deserving Of Love | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 16

Do You Let Love In? How To Feel Deserving Of Love | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 16

February 9, 2020

 

Do You Let Love In? How To Feel Deserving Of Love

The WISDOM podcast  Season 1  Episode 16

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-1:32  |   Episode Overview:  1:35 |  Are You Ready To Let Love In?  3:57  | What Makes It Difficult to Feel Loved?:  4:42  |  Altruistic Giving of Love:  7:58 |  A Question To Ask Yourself:  9:47  |  What Is The True Meaning of Self-Love?  10:00   |  Resources to Practice Self-Love:  10:16  |  The Origins of Feeling Undeserving of Love:  11:03  |  Your Personal Definition of Success - A 'Best Practice':  12:05  |  How Can You Receive Love?  16:40  |  Learn How To Open Your Heart At Will:  18:12  |  The Three Best Practices for Opening Your Heart:  21:32  |  The Freedom to Choose to Live From Your Heart:  25:32  | Reminders For Your Next Steps:  26:08  |  It's a Wrap!  27:00  |   Podcast Outro:  27:36

 

TRUTH SERUM:  Knowing that you are deserving of love originates in how you feel about yourself.  Being secure and confident in yourself; appreciating who you are - even as you may be seeking to improve aspects of yourself reminds you that the deepest experience of consistent and affirming love is what you feel unto yourself.  It is what you are wholly responsible for.   This is self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence, and self-love.

A-HA MOMENTS:  If you look outside of yourself to feel worthy and lovable, you make others responsible for your feelings.  Others can never fill the void that comes with not believing in your worth.  There is a specific process for learning self-love and building self-worth that I can help you with and it includes rewriting your core beliefs.  Loving yourself unconditionally is what allows you to live nourished, uplifted and to thrive.

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  “When you feel value and worth; when you feel successful by your own definition, it is easier to feel deserving of love; love that is directed towards your self.” - Dorothy Ratusny  

 

 💕 Perhaps one of the greatest sources of happiness and well being comes directly out of our ability to love our self and to be able to receive and internalize the positive words and actions of others; to allow the love and kindness from others to be felt deep within our being. After all, we thrive in knowing and feeling that we are loved.

So how appropriate is it as we are coming up to the one day of the year where our focus is on love? Predominantly romantic love but hopefully we are also able to think of love as a human construct that we can live as. In this episode, we examine why it is so important to be able to feel loved by others and unto our self and how can we be much better at this. I invite you to find a comfortable place where you can listen taking in the ideas, the concepts and feeling the importance of what it means to receive the love that others have for you and to have it also for yourself as the most definitive means of feelings and knowing your wholeness.

 

Do you let love in?  Are you ready to?

It is possible to shower others with love and kindness; to think of others' needs and to give ceaselessly of yourself - and yet feel unloved, unappreciated, or undeserving of love.

"Helping others, being kind, thoughtful, and generous of spirit - is how you are love in action; and yet being love does not predicate that one is able to feel deserving or worthy of love - and to let it in (to receive it fully)."  

How is it that 'giving love' can seem easier than receiving it?

What makes it so difficult to feel loved? 

 

I think of all of the caregivers of the world, and the reasons for why they give. The first reason may be the most obvious; that they are simply following their instinct; they are acting with the intention to do for others something that they believe will help them, that will allow them to feel happy; and that spreads love and kindness purely for altruistic reasons. Giving comes easily as they follow their natural yearning - an innately driven desire and flows ceaselessly from one’s heart as it remains open in loving kindness. But are there are other reasons for why we give? When you give of yourself, is it unconditional, do your require anything in return?

 

Why can it be easier to give love than to receive it?

Since it is your fundamental nature to be love, naturally you want to give love to others and you can do this even if you don't like or love who you are.  If you dislike yourself or feel undeserving of love, then giving love to others is one way that you intrinsically feel better about yourself (and you should) - since being loving-kindness is the highest ideal to live as. If you were reared to believe that love was conditional; that you had to earn it through good behaviour or tasks completed - then you may have grown up believing that you have to give and do for others first in order to receive love, acceptance, approval, or anything else that you needed.  You may also have been taught that you must always give more than what you receive.   

 

Giving of yourself, seeking to please others, and placing others' needs before your own - can be both a deliberate and an unconscious means of seeking love.  This type of love is considered conditional.

If you do not feel secure in a relationship, if you have been taught by your earliest experiences that you must do for others in order to receive love, if you find it difficult to take in (to receive) words and actions depicting love that are given to you by another - then your kindness and care may at times be driven by your need and desire to feel loved - even if you still struggle to feel this. 

Acts of kindness - of giving and doing - are one way that we are able to show love.  Yet, are we doing for others in part because we have learned through experience that we may receive love in return for our loving actions?     

Knowing that you are deserving of love originates in how you feel about yourself.  Being secure and confident in yourself; appreciating who you are - even as you may be seeking to improve aspects of yourself reminds you that the deepest experience of consistent and affirming love is what you feel unto yourself.  It is what you are wholly responsible for.   This is self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence, and self-love.

When you love yourself without conditions (including the parts of you that you are seeking to change and improve - by choice), then giving of yourself may be wholly altruistic rather than out of a need to seek praise, approval, and love.  Self-love and acceptance is what you may continue to foster and develop throughout your lifetime.  It may be said that you can become better at loving your self unconditionally - with daily positive self-talk, 'right' action that supports your authentic self, and the feeling of gratitude that comes with your willingness to acknowledge your goodness and all that you are.  

 

"Your kindness and love in words and actions without a need (or desire) to receive anything in return is an example of unconditional love - towards another."   - dorothy ratusny  

 

Unconditional love can seem fleeting at times.  When you are in a positive mind set; when you are happy and confident, it is easier to like and love your self and to be loving kindness towards others.  Unconditional love is present in the moments when you are most characteristically your authentic self.  This is an important reason why we all need to live honest and true to who we are; because accepting and loving our authentic self is easiest when we seek to live this - to be authentic first and in all moments.  

 

Here is a question to ask yourself: Can I love and cherish myself as I AM without needing anyone to approve of or validate me?

 

What is the true meaning of self-love?

How can you practice self-love in ways that nourish and soothe you; and that feel fulfilling?

What is needed in order to feel self-love unconditionally and unequivocally?  

Not only does it feel good to contribute to another’s happiness; but positive words and actions directed towards yourself, helps you to feel good, deserving, and of value.  It also reaffirms the following questions:

Do you rely on the praise and love of others in order to feel loved?

and

Do you give ceaselessly to others but find it difficult to receive and internalize or 'own' the praise and kindness that is given to you?

The origins of feeling unworthy and undeserving of love have deep roots often buried in childhood and reinforced with many experiences that you believed to be 'true' and which caused you to discount your goodness and to feel unlovable.  These core beliefs underlie the depths of your self worth; affecting how you think and feel - and what you believe about your self.

If you look outside of yourself to feel worthy and lovable, you make others responsible for your feelings.  Others can never fill the void that comes with not believing in your worth.  There is a specific process for learning self-love and building self-worth that I can help you with and it includes rewriting your core beliefs.  Loving yourself unconditionally is what allows you to live nourished, uplifted and to thrive.

work with me - dorothy ratusny psychotherapy, coaching, guided meditation, life path mapping,

 

 

 

If you want to let love in, if you want to feel more love, including more self-love, I want you to consider this strategy: Define success on your terms.  Create your personal DEFINITION OF SUCCESS.

Create a list of the virtues and attributes that you admire and approve of, and which you already possess.  Use this definition as your new measure of success.  Let your definition of success be about you - and not others.  There needs to be no comparison - only the acknowledgement of your goodness to yourself.

For example: humility, kindness, taking action for what you believe in, self-honesty, self-worth, love of learning, patience and resilience.  Download the pdf here and get started.  Decide what will be your Definition of Personal Success!

 

This definition is powerful because it identifies what you value most and it allows you to begin to rewrite what scripts you may have in your mind that you have been taught or conditioned to believe and which are not true indicators of your success and worthiness.

Defining your personal measure of success may be a challenge if you are accustomed to being self critical and diminishing your worth; or if you have been taught that you need to do for others in order to be deserving of their love.  The objective in deciding your definition of success is to help you change the way that you think and feel about yourself; and to own your worth and your successes -  now, wholly.  Focusing on your definition and measure of success reminds you of the ways in which you are already a success in your life - as you define it.  

Once you have written this, place your personal definition of success where you can read it every day.  Add to your definition each time you notice the ways in which you treat others with unconditional kindness and generosity; and as you acknowledge more of the positive virtues that you possess.  Let this definition of success be the way in which you prove to yourself that you are worthy of self love; that you are valuable and important as you are.  This is how you embrace your existing success - and how you intentionally raise your self esteem and worth.  This is to help you take in the kind words, the love, the feelings of what you are. This is so that you no longer require the feedback and approval of others to know that you are good enough, deserving, and lovable. 

Whenever you notice that you may be comparing your qualities to someone that you deem to be better than or more accomplished than you in some way, come back to your personal definition of success.  Remember that this definition is driven by the values that are most important to you. 

When you focus back onto your own definition of success, your need to compare yourself to anyone else diminishes significantly. What you define as most important to you, will be a description of what is successful to you. Let your own criteria determine what is successful. 

This is a reminder of your goodness, your worth and that you are deserving of love. Let this criteria also help you set future goals based on what you truly desire - and not because of what others are doing, having, or achieving. 

What you define as success is also what you identify as something worth working towards.  If it is a true marker of success for you then it will be important enough for you to pursue and accomplish.

“When you feel value and worth; when you feel successful by your own definition, it is easier to feel deserving of love; love that is directed towards your self.” - Dorothy Ratusny  

 

How you receive love...

When you receive love it is because you have opened your heart.  You cannot receive another's kindness and thoughtful action unless your heart is open; that is - that you are willing to receive love.  This is also how you are able to feel love directed inward.  You must be willing to practice self-kindness, self-care and compassion and to believe in your worthiness of deserving love.

You can prime yourself for receiving love by means of your current mood state.  If you are angry, sad, or any unpleasant or unwanted emotion; it will be impossible in that moment - to feel the love that another is attempting to give you (whether in kind words or deliberate action).  Alternatively, if you are happy; if you feel content and peaceful - and you are offered a hug; for example, it will be easy for you to receive this and to feel the loving kindness of another directed towards you.  When you are happy and peaceful; when you are in the present moment - your heart is open.  With your heart open, it is possible for you to feel compassion and kindness towards yourself.

 

You can learn how to open your heart at will.

You can live with conscious awareness of the flow of life force energy moving through you and of feeling this energy most deeply in your heart centre; or you may be consumed by the thoughts of your (ego) mind.  This is always a choice.  When you open your heart it is because of your conscious choice to do so; it is because you are choosing to be present in this moment and to hold yourself open to kindness and love - to being this and to receiving this in perfect and yet simple ways.  When you perceive the world (and especially those with whom you interact) as friendly and kind; as people doing their best even if their best is not the same as your own; life seems to be in harmony; things work out for you with relative ease; and you feel happiness readily.  In these moments, when you attune to the energy of your heart - it feels expansive, freeing, and ever so light.  You constrict the flow of this energy whenever you perceive yourself or others with harshness, negativity and bias judgment.

Just as you can learn to open your heart at will, know that you have also learned to close it.  Most often we learn to close our heart energy (chakra) as a form of self protection; of needing to protect and withstand what hurt (anger, or unfair treatment, including abuse) was shown to us.  We instinctively learn to close our heart whenever we sense that we may be hurt by another, taken advantage of, or if we interpret a situation as stressful or dangerous.  Closing our heart energy becomes a learned behaviour - and one that we do instinctively - most often without realizing.

“Our nature is to love.  When we have been hurt or betrayed by someone we still want to love them, we long to still feel loved by them. In these moments, our best practice is to direct our love within; to bathe our self with the feeling of love experienced fully.” - Dorothy Ratusny

Giving unto others opens our heart; any action of kindness will allow us to be open to receiving love because through giving we are also able to receive. Living of your heart open to love transmutes into the world and specifically as loving kindness directed towards others. The question is: “How good are we at doing this for our self?”

There are three best practices for achieving this self-love and for opening your heart and these you can implement immediately. The first: kind self-talk what you tell yourself you believe; every cell in your body is listening. Therefore, its important that the words that you speak each day inside your mind unto yourself are words of love and kindness and that they are uplifting.

The second best practice that will allow you to feel your heart open to self-love is gratitude and thanks for all that you are; all that you have both in your relationships with others and as you are your incredible self. Each one of us can be more encouraging and approving of our self as we are. When we teach our children that they are special and exquisite, we teach them how to love their self regardless of what mistakes they will make.

The third best practice is this: The way you live will always build your feelings of worth and your love directed inward. Therefore, aim to always live in the most kind and honourable way. In summary: Choose to live life seeing the good in others, being grateful for everything that you can possibly feel grateful for, as well as what is still on its way to you and trust in the power of desire to fuel your loving action felt most beautifully directed within.

If our earliest life teachings support this natural ability to love our self first and if this could be consistently reinforced, then we would truly be self-sustaining; able to rely on our self first and foremost for love, encouragement, and the knowledge that we are more than enough. When we are taught to love and cherish our self, then we will be more willing to follow what is best and right for who we are, rather than seek to be what others want of us, or as what we may think that others will appreciate or approve of because of our willingness to be what they desire and believe.

It is the most perfect and loving gift for us to take care of our self, to look after our needs first and to do what allows us to feel our innate happiness. If you practice self-love and self-care such as listening to and honouring what is aligned with your highest good, then you will remain on a path that supports and validates you and that helps you to live in a way that you can feel best about yourself.

 

“It is your inherent and authentic nature to be loving; to live with your heart open - to be kind to all others.” - dorothy ratusny  

It certainly helps when others also practice loving kindness; however it is important to know that your natural and inherent state - is one of love.  It is when you live out of your ego mind that you are susceptible to critical and self damaging thoughts which cause you to feel unworthy, anxious, angry, or sad.  This is how you close the energy of your heart (and thus your ability to feel loved) quite deliberately and often without awareness of doing so.

The freedom to choose to live from your heart is your free will choice.  Practice deliberately opening your heart; and seek to live far more of your life with your heart open.  This is how you witness what it means to live as a being of love - deliberately. Living with your heart open is the mechanism for being love, for loving kindness, and self-love.

 

Gifts of Love:  Helpful Reads and Experiential Practices to Nurture Self-Love and Self-Acceptance: 

This is Love... A Guided Meditation

Discover the 3 self-love practices that will help you live as love in this video

The Path of My Heart

A Love Message to My Soul: A Prose Meditation

 

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

 

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Floating' (20 min) and 'Embrace' 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

 

 

The Five Best ‘5-Minute’ Mindfulness and Meditation Life Hacks | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 15

The Five Best ‘5-Minute’ Mindfulness and Meditation Life Hacks | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 15

February 2, 2020

 

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The Five Best '5-Minute' Mindfulness and Meditation Life Hacks

The WISDOM podcast  Season 1  Episode 15

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:10  |   The Science of Meditation and Mindfulness: 2:11 |  Meditation is... 4:52  | Meditation is... not:  5:22  |  One Benefit of Meditation: 6:21 |  The Satipatthana Sutta... 9:22  |  The 1st Best Life Hack for Your 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Practice:  11:56   |  The Science and Rationale for Life Hack #1:  13:35  |  My Client Laura's 5-Minute 'door closed' Mindfulness Break:  14:32  |  Your 5-Minute sessions of Mindfulness and Meditation will Bring You Calm:  15:31  |  The 2nd Best Life Hack for Your 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Practice:  17:13  |  The Science and Rationale for Life Hack #2:  17:55  |  The 3rd Best Life Hack for Your 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Practice:  18:56  |  The Science and Rationale for Life Hack #3:  20:44  | The 4th Best Life Hack for Your 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Practice:  21:30  |  The Science and Rationale for Life Hack #4: 23:25  The 5th Best Life Hack for Your 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Practice:  24:28 |  The Science and Rationale for Life Hack #5:  25:02  |  Meditation and Mindfulness Resources (my gifts to you):  26:27  | Next Week's Episode Sneak Preview!  27:58  | Podcast Outro:  29:35

 

The science of Meditation and Mindfulness reveal how effective a short 5-minute practice can be for controlling anxiety and reducing one’s perception of what is stressful, for feeling relief and comfort, for reclaiming presence, for focusing the mind and lengthening attention span, for positive emotional health and enhanced self-awareness; and for gaining a different or more accurate perspective. Stress reduction is one of the most common reasons why people practice meditation and mindfulness.

TRUTH SERUM:  Mindfulness allows you to appreciate life for its singular moments and for the act of being in the present.  Meditation is the act of focusing your attention - your awareness - onto a single object (or a process such as your breathing) in this moment as both an experience and a process of being mindful.  These two practices are interchangeable; and they become a new way of experiencing life as you live it - in each moment.

A-HA MOMENTS:  Every moment is precious.  What is most important is what you choose because this is reflected in how you feel and what you do.  The real purpose of mindfulness and meditation is to have a practice and a way of life - in which you experience the present moment - fully

PRACTICAL WISDOM: Meditation may be formal or informal.  Informal meditation is mindfulness.  There are different practices of formal meditation based on different philosophies and customary rituals; the common element of which is sitting or lying in a comfortable posture while attending to one's awareness; and to focus the mind typically onto a single point or object; returning the mind to this point each time that it may wander.  Meditation becomes a practice of observing the present moment and training the mind to focus where you choose to place attention.

 

Especially if you are new to these practices or if you are wishing to develop a habit of mindfulness and meditation as a regular part of your life; these 5-minute life hacks will enrich your present moment experiences, offer insight, enhanced awareness - and build the habit of holding presence - in each moment that you choose this.

"Living attentive to the moment-by-moment experiences of life unfolding allows you greater control of what you are living - here and now."

- dorothy ratusny

Every moment is precious.  What is most important is what you choose because this is reflected in how you feel and what you do.  The real purpose of mindfulness and meditation is to have a practice and a way of life - in which you experience the present moment - fully.  Remember that each conscious breath that you attend to fully - is a mindful momentMindfulness allows for a greater appreciation of 'what is'; of awareness and attention to life's abundance and simple pleasures; to being discerning of aspects of yourself such as your breath, your mood state, and the thoughts that you hold; your posture and other self care practices that nourish the self.

 

Further, when you experience several mindful moments linked together; for example, your attention focused on an object of your choosing (a candle flame, a cloud formation in the sky, gently moving) or an experience of conscious breathing – these become a source of brief meditation – “The conscious deliberate act of holding attention onto a particular point of focus.”  When you notice when your mind wanders from where you have placed your focus and as you are able to return your attention at will, this 5-minute mindfulness practice becomes an example of formal, artful meditation

Meditation is not the absolute holding of attention without disruption but rather the practice of focused attention and awareness by choice.  You choose a point of deliberate focus in which to hold attention onto, but you also recognize that your mind will move from this focus.  This is the habit of the mind; to attend to new thoughts and to be distracted onto thinking of the past and future.  Your awareness of this becomes your cue for resuming your focus; for placing your attention onto something new.  The idea of meditation is that you direct your mind deliberately where you wish to hold attention and to simply observe what you notice in doing so. 

One benefit of meditation is to develop the practice of focusing your mind; to improve your ability to hold attention where you have chosen and for as long as you choose.  Meditation reminds you that you choose what you think about and how you direct your mind to think.  This is also from where we explore the idea of being rather than doing.

 

Mindfulness allows you to appreciate life for its singular moments and for the act of being in the present.  Meditation is the act of focusing your attention - your awareness - onto a single object (or a process such as your breathing) in this moment as both an experience and a process of being mindful.  These two practices are interchangeable; and they become a new way of experiencing life as you live it - in each moment. 

Two questions that you may wish to ask yourself to assist in your experience of both mindfulness and meditationAm I being mindful? and What can I choose to meditate upon?  When you ask these questions of yourself daily, it will make the difference between living far more of your life, aware and awake.

 

Just before we dive in to this list, I'd like to reiterate what mindfulness and meditation is.  Mindfulness is: present moment awareness.  It is bringing an attitude of curiosity and observation to what you notice.  Mindfulness is what allows you to experience the present moment, and to live each moment fully in the experience of it; as it is - and not preoccupied or distracted by the thoughts in your mind.  This allows you to enjoy life even more. The benefit to living more of your life with mindfulness and present moment awareness is a richer experience; presence in observing what 'is' - being an active participant in your life, and being privy and aware of more because you are fully attentive.

  • In the Satipatthana Sutta which is one of the most celebrated and widely studied discourses in the Pāli Canon of Theravada Buddhism, acting as the foundation for contemporary vipassana meditational practice, the Buddha's use of the word sati means 'attention' in exactly the way that a modern cognitive therapist would describe the word.  Sati is the conscious perception and evaluation of something; such as discriminating right from wrong.  In the Suttasati  is linked to the word atapi which means 'strong intention'; and which implies purpose and goal-directed behaviour.  So when we think about modern day mindfulness, and if we want to consider its true roots and meaning; mindfulness is the ability to hold attention purposefully, to help us make right decisions and to be attentive and aware in our lives. 

 

Meditation may be formal or informal.  Informal meditation is mindfulness.  There are different practices of formal meditation based on different philosophies and customary rituals; the common element of which is sitting or lying in a comfortable posture while attending to one's awareness; and to focus the mind typically onto a single point or object; returning the mind to this point each time that it may wander.  Meditation becomes a practice of observing the present moment and training the mind to focus where you choose to place attention.

 

"You choose your reality based on what you decide to think about and what beliefs you hold.  This makes life an ever consistent source of co-creating."  - dorothy ratusny

 

As we go through this list, perhaps it will inspire for you the simplicity of these practices and for how each offers much in revealing how life can be a series of moments; many of which are sacred and special because of your awareness of them.

 

Let’s look at the list:

Here Are The Five Best Life Hacks for Having a 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Practice.

1.  The 1st Best life hack is to create space in your day for 5 minutes of Mindfulness and Meditation and commit yourself to this

When does it feel most helpful to take some deep conscious breaths or to close your eyes for 5 minutes and practice formal meditation? When would you most benefit from a mindful presence - of being deliberately attentive to what you notice and are aware of.  When would be the best time for meditation - in which you sit or lie comfortably for 5 minutes or longer holding awareness and attention onto a point of focus; or being guided through a meditation practice?

At first you may wish to set reminders in your phone that guide and direct you to this. When your alarm indicates it is time for a 5-minute practice perhaps this will be something that you look forward to as a healthy reprieve and a means of bringing your focus into the present.

Here is the science and the strategy for this life hack:  Making mindfulness and meditation a habit happens when you deliberately build it into your daily routine.  It's most helpful if you can schedule: (1) the optimal time(s) of day for these practices and (2) Your 5 minutes of mindfulness and meditation act as helpful impromptu strategies often when you need it most - to decompress, to feel calm and centred in your body in the present, or to relieve an unpleasant feeling or mood state; and to improve cognitive focus. Just remember that all you need is 5 minutes and without expectations.  Rather, allow yourself to take in the full experience and whatever it offers you.

One of my clients - a busy family lawyer - closes her office door at the same time each day.  At first, Laura hung a sign on her door to let her associates and support staff know that she was meditating.  After a time, her colleagues came to expect that her door would be closed at 3 pm each day.  Laura began to receive positive feedback, as others noticed that she was calmer and seemed happier after her daily meditation session each afternoon.  Laura noticed that her focus was better when she resumed her work after brief sessions of mindfulness meditation (Current research also supports this). And it wasn’t long before her 5-minute practice became a 15-minute ritual that was her self-ascribed daily dose of calm and perspective that she has found most enjoyable.

Your 5-minute (and sometimes longer) sessions of mindfulness and meditation will bring you calm and relief.  It will help re-frame you perspective - especially if you live a busy and often 'stress-filled' life.  If you want to experience the greatest benefits of mindfulness and meditation, commit to a 5-minute regular practice that you carve out time for each day.  Set a daily reminder in your phone so that you can pause whatever you are doing for this practice.  Like Laura, who managed on most days to commit to her 3 pm alarm when it sounded - it became something she looked forward to and it did wonders for her mental and emotional well-being.

Scheduling a 5-minute practice at different times throughout your day offers you a simple reprieve; a chance to focus inward; and to take in your surroundings with greater awareness.  There is nothing that you need to do further.  Mindfulness and meditation are not tasks that you can accomplish, but rather they are ways of being; of having awareness and presence of living fully of this moment. 

Your 5-minute meditation and mindfulness practice becomes a regular part of each day (and your life) when you make the commitment to yourself for this.

 

2. The 2nd Best 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation life hack is this: When you feel anxious, stop and breathe.  See if you can pull yourself out of whatever you are doing for 5 minutes and be attentive to your breath, to soothing yourself with your breathing.  This becomes a habit more easily as you remind yourself that a 5-minute mindfulness or informal meditation practice is a way to reset; to gain perspective; and to have a reprieve from what thoughts were the source of your stress.

The science and rationale behind this strategy is this:  In your 5-minute practice of mindfulness or meditation, the idea is to be aware and attentive in this moment.  The purpose of meditation and mindfulness is not to halt your thoughts or keep your mind strictly focused.  Rather, it's about holding presence to your experience.  Holding attention unto your breath is quite likely the simplest way to bring your attention fully into the present moment; as you breathe holding your focus onto your breath and observe what sensations you witness as you experience yourself breathing. It will serve you well to have more than one 5-minute mindfulness break each day; and to stop for a moment and be mindful whenever you feel overwhelmed or any other challenging emotion.

 

3.  A 3rd Best life hack for developing a regular 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation practice is to choose an activity that you do regularly; such as eating, exercise, walking, taking public transportation or as you commute to work - and practice mindfulness of this specific activity for 5 minutes each day for a week.  In fact, if you wanted to ensure that your mindfulness practice becomes a life long habit, you can continue in the practice of mindfulness of a particular activity and to observe what is noticed for a minimum of 2 months (actually 66 days to be exact) because that is what the research has suggested that this is the amount of time that is needed to develop a longstanding habit. Practising mindfulness of the everyday experiences and activities of life will help you to apply this practice as a way of being.

You may choose a different activity each day to be mindful of, in order to contemplate what it means to have greater awareness.  Notice how your mindfulness practice of this activity makes it richer, more intensely beautiful, and how you may feel as you are fully engaged in what you are doing, thinking, and experiencing.  For example, if you bring awareness - mindfulness - to your workout at the gym, are you more deliberate and focused in what you are doing? Do you notice your muscles working and how this feels?  Are you less distracted in those 5 minutes of mindfulness?

The science and rationale of this strategy:  Your present moment awareness of an activity allows you to notice and learn more; it means that you are more attentive to yourself and your surroundings which allows for heightened feedback about this experience.  Notice how your mindfulness practice of an activity allows for a more enjoyable experience of it; and with purposeful results.  You may find yourself choosing to be mindful in more ways throughout your day. Notice as you do so what happens.

 

4.  A 4th Best life hack for your 5-Minute Mindfulness and Meditation practice is to train yourself to live mindfully by asking questions that will raise your consciousness.  Ask yourself the questions: "What do I need in this moment?" and "What would allow me to feel happiness now?" and then just pause, sitting in the space of silence as your answers come from within you, rising up to the surface to meet your question. Your answers lend to a mindfulness practice that directs your attention inward; to assess your needs and allow you to make informed choices in the moment so that you may best provide yourself with what you need.  You may feel depleted in your inner resources if you are always giving to others; but also if you focus on productivity and achievement at the expense of replenishing your self.  Practice asking questions to become mindful and to formally meditate upon, as a way of introducing calm and relaxation, self-care and greater well-being.  Discover what simple and often nourishing solutions you can give yourself because of your mindful awareness and in being reflective upon what is needed. I’ll leave a link here to a pdf that you can download for a set of questions that you can post where you can remind yourself of how specific questions can stir your awareness and open you to being awake and aware and in the present moment.

The science and rationale behind this strategy: When you ask yourself: "What do I need in this moment?" or "What would allow me to feel happiness now?" These questions unto themselves become the focus for your formal 5-minute meditation.  This will allow answers to surface that come from a deeper source within you and which reveal what is right and best for you in this moment.  The asking of your highest self can become a practice that you engage in often - particularly when you wish to solve a problem, for changing how you feel, for feeling comfort and support, and nourishing your being.

 

5.  Finally, a 5th Best way to Enjoy Your 5-Minute daily practice of Mindfulness and Meditation is to listen to a mindfulness led practice or guided formal meditation.  Whether you are new to mindfulness and meditation or an experienced guru, listening to others guide you in your practice will be helpful to engage your attention; as you focus on their words and instructions and as it is a helpful way to learn new ideas for your practice.

The science and rationale behind this strategy:  Allowing yourself to be guided through a 5-minute (or longer) meditation or mindfulness practice keeps things new and creative; it also gives you more experience; and you will always be learning more.

Many of the meditation apps offer free trial memberships, and unlocked free content.  Purchasing a subscription is a great way to take advantage of all of the content that they offer.  Having guidance in your practice helps you to feel encouraged in what you are learning and it is helpful to be exposed to different kinds of meditations and mindfulness practices which grow your confidence and ability Some of the most popular meditation and mindfulness apps are:  Insight Timer, Aura, Calm, and Headspace; and of course there is an unlimited library of meditation and mindfulness practices free on YouTube.  You may also find free mindfulness and meditation content on my website by visiting the Wisdom Archives.

 

Your ‘gifted’ and most special.... Meditation and Mindfulness Resources:

Why Taking A Deep Breath Feels Good: The Self-Healing Benefits of Deep Breathing

Your First Meditation With Me

In the Present Moment ...is Your Most Beautiful Life

 

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

 

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Isla Nocturna' 'Shrine (30min)' and 'Exaltation' from the Album - "Illuvia"

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

 

 

Harness the Power of Intention and Determination: How to Create Your SANKALPA  | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 14

Harness the Power of Intention and Determination: How to Create Your SANKALPA | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 14

January 26, 2020

Harness the POWER of Intention and Determination: How to Create Your SANKALPA

The WISDOM podcast  Season 1  Episode 14

with Dorothy Ratusny 

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-1:32  |   What Do You Want to Achieve? Episode Intro: 1:33 |  A Sankalpa is... 2:59  | What Makes A Sankalpa Different?:  3:19  |  Sankalpa - Two Sanskrit Words: 4:12 |  A Sankalpa Is A Declaration of Your Commitment:  5:20  |  Harness Your Ultimate Potential and Power:  6:32  |  A Sankalpa is a Form of Neuroplasticity:  8:41  |  A Sankalpa Engages Your Heart's Deepest Desire:  11:43  |  Choosing Your Sankalpa:  12:06  |  The First Type of Sankalpa:  13:10  |  The Second Type of Sankalpa:  13:55  |  Before You Decide On Your Sankalpa:  15:00  |  Sankalpa Suggestions:  15:36  |  Your Gift From Me - A Yoga Nidra Meditation to Inspire Your Sankalpa:  17:34  |  Repeating Your Sankalpa:  18:03  Nourishing Your Sankalpa:  21:06 |  Resources and More:  22:40  |  Podcast Outro:  23:05

 

TRUTH SERUM: What makes a sankalpa different from the kinds of intentions, goals, or new year’s resolutions that you may have set previously - is a single factor - the power of a sankalpa (this profound intention or 'vow') is transmuted through the deepest yearnings of your heart.  It is also suggested that it is your soul in direct communication with you that inspires you towards greater action and to live awake and on purpose. This makes the determination that you hold for your sankalpa of the upmost importance, mobilizing you towards an outcome aligned with your highest level goals, beliefs, and values; and for all of who you desire to become.

A-HA MOMENTS:  “With your sankalpa, you live in alignment with what your inner wisdom, your heart's desire is compelling you to act upon.” - dorothy ratusny

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  Think of your sankalpa as a call to action.  It is designed to be results-driven, aimed towards fulfilling a particular life goal.

 

A sankalpa should respect and uphold the deeper meaning of your life and is a declaration you can call upon to reinforce your true beliefs and guide the choices you make through life.  Source: Intuitive Flow

In this episode of The WISDOM podcast, I'd like to explain why a sankalpa is different from a typical resolve or declaration of intention and how it can specifically help direct you on your chosen path with reverence towards what is most wanted and important for your life fulfillment.  I also want to share how a sankalpa helps you to uphold with clarity and greater ease, the ways of being that support you in living as your highest or ideal self.

I think the timing of this topic is perfect if you are listening at the time of its release when, as we near the end of this first month of a new decade, many continue to look for new practices and life changing habits that will allow them to live a more fulfilling and compelling life. Last week’s episode of self-discipline comes as an important reminder that all of what we desire most is possible; we also need to do the work that effectively brings what is most desired to us. A sankalpa - our focus for this episode - is an important part of holding resolve, determination, and the will to succeed towards what you desire most for yourself and your life because of what feels deeply meaningful and of purpose.

A sankalpa is a solemn vow, conviction, determination, or will.  It is a way to set a powerful intention that connects with your heart's deepest desire to support your highest truth (your dharma or life's purpose).  Sankalpa (Sanskrit: सङ्कल्प) is the compound of two Sanskrit words: kalpa means "vow, or the rule to be observed above or before any other rule" and san "a concept or idea formed in the heart" (and therefore a connection with your highest truth).

 

 

“It is what you define and live that allows you to enjoy a life of meaning and purpose; aligned with the reason for why you are here right now - in this space and time.” - Dorothy Ratusny

What is Sankalpa?

A sankalpa is a declaration of your commitment to uphold and follow a path that allows you to live your truth (your dharma). The concept of sankalpa appears in the most ancient of all the Vedic texts; the Rig Veda.  The art and science of applying sankalpa was considered to be the foundation for achieving or becoming anything of real significance. What makes it unique is the practice of listening within to your inner wisdom – most specifically to your heart centre and to your soul consciousness.

 

"On this path you must first awaken your sankalpa shakti - the power of will and determination" - Swami Rama

Your sankalpa; stated as a desire, an intention, an affirmative action that originates from your soul; liberates you as you choose what is already a deep yearning and an awakening to fulfill your greatness.  Your greatness is not something of ego, but the ability to live your highest potential; to awaken to the fact that you are far more than your physical mind and body. To harness your ultimate potential and power includes being aware of your higher purpose here in this lifetime. If you would like to take in more on the topic of living your greatness, you must listen to Episode 1 of The WISDOM podcast for how to live as your most beautiful and authentic self.

 

A sankalpa is born from an innermost reverend and spiritual yearning that is beyond any physical, mental, or emotional need.  This distinct inner knowing is what rises up from within perhaps as what appears to be a quiet murmur at first, and then a clear and discernible truth that guides and directs you as a beacon of light towards your highest potential, as you walk through life.

I invite you to join me here as we explore how your life will support your highest level ideals when you use a sankalpa as a daily practice; how your sankalpa serves your spiritual journey guiding you to discover and actualize your greater purpose in this life; and how to formulate your sankalpa that aligns you with what is most important to you.

 

A sankalpa is a statement of purpose, a vow, a desired intention that is aligned with your soul's desire and that which allows you to carry out a greater purpose for your life - in this present reality.” - dorothy ratusny

 

A sankalpa reflects your daily desired actions and decisions, and the best choices that you could make towards how you choose to live and who you are. It is your deepest intention and determination – your resolve towards something of authentic importance that aligns you with a deeper meaning for your life.

 

How Do You Open Your Heart? Find the Answer in this Guided Meditation: You Are A Being of Love

 

What makes a sankalpa powerful is its ability to transform your life because of what you have chosen to follow and be (this is your ‘intention’), and then as you live this in practical ways. A sankalpa in a scientific context is a form of neuroplasticity; the ability of the brain to change continuously throughout one's life. 

How Does This Work?  As you integrate your wishes and heart-driven desires, into the neurological processes of the brain, this translates into how you function and feel in your body, and ultimately your actions and the outward appearances of who you continue to become.

Whereas neuroplasticity is neurological and focuses on the brain as an organ, a sankalpa practice originates in desire and is emotion-driven; your deepest yearnings rise up to propel your actions towards what is most wanted.  You must engage your heart's wisdom to experience this deepest resolve, originating within you.

 

Think of your sankalpa as a guiding drive or desire of the soul that encodes within the subconscious, a path and template towards how to best live your greatness.” - dorothy ratusny

 

Because there is a bidirectional communication between the brain and the body, this provides a mechanism for our mind to influence our body as well as for our body to influence our thoughts and feelings, and what become our beliefs.

 

“Your sankalpa – your intention must be reflective of both mind and body and what is desired most deeply of your heart.” - dorothy ratusny

 

If you set an intention or resolution in the traditional way, by deciding in your mind what is wanted; if it is a desire based upon satisfying some external requirement or a belief that you need to accomplish or achieve something in order to be happy, successful, or to feel at peace, then you have similarly decided that you are not enough as you are.  This is both a flawed position – and an 'untruth'.  It also creates dissonance and discrepancy between what is wanted and the thought or belief that you are not this already (or you do not have this).

 

When you create a sankalpa statement that is summoned by your deepest desires, and as your mind and heart are aligned towards this desire, and as you rehearse your sankalpa daily to reaffirm what will support this intention, using your will and desire to carry this out, you will be inspired to live a life of your choice that reaffirms what you already are and simultaneously who you are becoming.

When you have a inner desire, expressed as a heart-driven calling; whether you call this a life's purpose or a life quest - your sankalpa and the achieving of this aligns you with the greater purpose for your life; it is sparked by a deeply conscious inner desire.

A sankalpa engages your heart's deepest desire for you to align your thoughts and actions with your true essence; and to know that you already are whole and complete.  Your sankalpa is a declaration of you aligning with your highest self to be all that you are capable of becoming.

 

Choosing Your Sankalpa

Setting a sankalpa becomes an opportunity for clarity, self-reflection and discovery, a time to formally align yourself with your highest level goals and a particular direction that you wish to follow in life.  It can assist you in formalizing your purpose, reinforce affirmative action and build self-worth.

Discovering your sankalpa is a process of listening.  Your heartfelt desire is already present, waiting to be acknowledged, heard, felt. It is not something that you need to invent and the mind doesn’t have to go in search for it.

I’m also including in the episode transcripts a link for you to have a meditation to use as guiding wisdom for discovering your sankalpa and for its place in your life.

 

Two Types of Sankalpa

There are two forms of sankalpa. The first is known as “the heartfelt desire” and is expressed as a statement that reflects your true nature. Requiring no change or action, the heartfelt desire is purely a statement of who you are. For instance, it may be expressed as “I am whole” or “I am happiness”, “I do my best to be love in all moments with all others” and “I am LOVE”. This type of sankalpa, according to yogic philosophy, comes not from the conscious mind, but instead resides deep within us and is key to enlightenment; to the realization of what we ultimately are.

The second form is focused on a specific intention or goal. This could take the form of setting smaller goals as focused intentions which when realized, help you to live your soul’s mission. Setting specific goals can help to connect your conscious choices with your heart’s desire and your soul’s yearning. To do this, ask yourself what things need to happen for you to progress on your path’ and, ‘What are the ways in which you desire to be and live in the world?’ With your answers, and in direct communication with your heart and your soul consciousness, you may form a personal sankalpa that describes what you need to do. When said aloud, the sankalpa informs the conscious mind of the direction you need to take to make progress on your higher level goals or life purpose.  Source: What is Sankalpa?

 

Before you decide on your sankalpa, take some time, even a few days if you want to feel sure and confident; in self-reflection and meditation and in thinking carefully about your life; and what would be your highest goals and desires? What do you want to achieve and to become based on the deepest yearnings of your heart?

 

Here are some suggestions of sankalpas given by swami Satyananada Saraswati in his book “Yoga Nidra” together with other examples, illustrating both forms of sankalpa: 

• I  awaken my spiritual potential.
• I  am a positive force for the evolution of others.
• I  am successful in all that I undertake; I continue to grow and learn from all experiences.
• I embrace change and transformation.
• I  am aware and awake in my life.
• I  achieve total health.
• Compassion is my true nature.
• With compassion to my body and for all living beings, I choose to eat a plant based diet.

It is suggested that only one sankalpa is to be in play at any one time, so that you may devote your focus to it completely.  Whether it is to be a short-term or a long-term sankalpa, you must go beyond your intellect; and allow it to originate from a moment of inspiration - perhaps during inner reflection, meditation, or as you have been able to listen to your deepest desires emanating from within.  Allow yourself to become still and silent in body and mind. Ask your innermost self to reveal it to you so that it comes into your awareness in a clear, unwavering, precise manner.  Tell yourself, “I will find my sankalpa.”

*I’m also gifting you with a Yoga Nidra Meditation.  This is most helpful to access your consciousness and to envelope your sankalpa practice. You can find the link to this meditation in the episode transcripts. Once you have formulated your sankalpa, you may wish to use this meditation from time to time to reaffirm and strengthen your resolve.  Listen here: Yoga Nidra 'Inspired Consciousness' - A Meditation Experience

 

Your sankalpa is a formal statement that beckons your heart as you align with and follow your dharma, your truth (your life's purpose) in actualizing your self. 

 

Repeating Your Sankalpa

When your sankalpa has become a positive and concise statement, it is ready to be utilized as a constructive goal, to give a positive direction to your existence.

The idea of repeating a sankalpa is to create the life we are meant to embrace and enjoy. The purpose is to transform one‘s life physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  When made with a mind that is calm and relaxed, the sankalpa is impressed on the subconscious. We acknowledge and affirm the desire of our sankalpa at the deep level of our soul, and as we take action using will and determination towards this, knowing that together with right timing and our efforts, we will be experiencing this in our life.   Source: Intuitive Flow

When you repeat your sankalpa, it should be as if all your mental and emotional energy, all your faith, all your sincerity and devotion have been concentrated into the form of a simple, positive statement. When you repeat it mentally to yourself, do so with full conviction that it will come true in your daily life.

Any moment during the day or night can be an opportunity to reinforce, to intensify your sankalpa.  Think of it, and mentally repeat it at any time.  However, especially seek out the times when your mind feels most receptive to it, and then, consciously allow the message to go deep into the subtle realms of your being.  For example: repeat it as your first thought upon waking; as your last thought, immediately before sleep overtakes you, as a mantra during meditation, at the beginning and end of yoga nidra, and before and after meals.  You may also post a reminder of it on your computer or phone screen.

Most important is to feel the consciousness of your words expressed deeply throughout your being and connecting with your highest self as your witness - as you imagine your sankalpa already complete and in your present moment reality.  (Sometimes you may feel that a huge gap exists between yourself and the realization of your sankalpa. At those times, repeat it mentally and visualize it, as if it has already come true right in front of you, in living reality.)

"The force of your mental energy is capable of tremendous intensity, and know that if you are able to harness that force, anything that you set your mind to will come true."  -Swami Nirmalratna Saraswati

 

Your sankalpa is a call to awakening that enables you to direct your consciousness, and channel your free will towards living your highest potential.

In essence, the ancient concept of sankalpa is based on the principle that your mind has measureless capacity to affect the quality and the content of your life.  In the ancient traditions, including the Veda, tantra and yoga, the belief was to fill the mind with "auspicious thoughts" as the mind is believed to be the ruler of your fate.  According to the Buddha, "the mind is everything.  What you think you become."

 

Nourish Your Sankalpa

Every conscious choice that you make is a choice towards strengthening your sankalpa.  Here is an important and helpful practice: Whenever you find yourself looking to be impulsive; to continue in unhealthy habits or patterns that do not serve your highest self; your dharma (and truth); bring your sankalpa to mind. In this way, you are reminded of your resolve and the right choices that align you with what is most wanted.  In the space between the impulse to act and reciting your sankalpa, it is important to pause and invite the mind to settle into a state of oneness - of presence in this moment and in the reminder of what you truly are.  Enjoy a few mindful breaths here; find the pause between the breaths to remember your true nature - already complete, already capable of what which you wish to be.  In this state of wholeness and oneness with divine spiritual energy rather than confusion, emptiness, impulse, or lack of hope—remember and live your sankalpaSource: Rod Stryker

 

Learn More With These Recommended Readings:

 

Guided Meditations to Help You Create and Nourish Your Sankalpa: 

A Meditation for Living With Your Heart Open

You Are A Being of Love

Yoga Nidra Meditation

How Do I Manifest? The 3 Secrets of Conscious Manifesting

 

Work with Me: dorothyratusny.com

 

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The Three Secrets of Self-Discipline | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 13

The Three Secrets of Self-Discipline | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 13

January 19, 2020

The Three Secrets of Self-Discipline

The WISDOM podcast  Season 1 Episode 13

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:16  |   Your Self-Discipline is What Sets You Apart From Others: 4:25 |  Self-Discipline Encourages Within You... 5:32  | Self-Discipline is a Measure of Your Level of Commitment to Yourself:  8:18  |  Self-Discipline is A Life Skill that Defines Your Greatness:  9:37 |  Begin Here:  12:47  |  The First Secret of Self-Discipline:  14:50  |  Your Success Strategy for this First Secret: 16:11 |  The Second Secret of Self-Discipline:  18:20  |  Your Success Strategy Question for this Second Secret:  21:08  |  The Third Secret of Self-Discipline:  22:32  |  Guidance for the Success Strategy of this Third Secret:  26:54  |  My Recommendation for Your Practice of Self-Discipline to Make It an Ever Present Success Habit:  31:54  |  Join the Facebook Group 'LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE... NOW!' for More Support and Guidance:  32:58  |  A Preview of Next Week's Episode on Naming Your Sankalpa: 33:54 |  Podcast Outro:  35:42

 

You thrive in self-discipline.  Self-discipline is personal power.  It is a discernible and distinctly present force that helps you to accomplish what is desired, to make the best and right choices, and to live exuding confidence and self-respect.

TRUTH SERUM: On a daily basis, self-discipline is what you harness that gets you into the gym, it is the voice that says "no" to a choice of eating what food is not healthy; and it is what mobilizes you to seek more for yourself through conscious and deliberate action.  But suppose you wanted to wield greater self-discipline easily as a success habit in the daily ever-present moments of your life; and where you need it the most.

A-HA MOMENTS:  Because we are the culmination of every conscious or unconscious choice; every thought, every action, every feeling; we need self-discipline to thrive at the highest level; to optimize balance and to propel ourselves along a path of our choosing; where we can feel certain and fulfilled in our choices; and in our destiny; and because self-discipline is what we must teach our children, we must first be this, and in all areas of our life. 

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  Your self-discipline is what sets you apart from others; it is what makes the difference between getting something finished and doing remarkable work that is beyond what you thought was possible.  Self-discipline at this level requires conscious decision-making and the resolve to see all of your goals and dreams realized.

 

If you wish to have the habit of self-discipline ever-present in your life in a way that you have never felt it before, then I invite you to listen on; and to contemplate the 3 secrets that make self-discipline possible as a consistent optimal life habit that affirms your ideal self.  Let these 3 secrets reveal the true purpose of self-discipline and its ever relevant place in your life... and in your heart.

You initially learn self-discipline in childhood.  You model the behaviours that you found to be honourable in your caregivers; and this, in addition to what they taught and practised themselves, surmount to what life practices, work ethic, values, and daily habits have become what you do.

Self-discipline encourages within you a sense of responsibility, accountability, high morals and standards, and the ability to accomplish tasks successfully because you have learned the practice of resolve; of deepening your commitment and going within to draw from that discipline in order to produce what is deeply desired.  Your achievements and successes continue to build an ever growing confidence, as they feed and nourish you with a sense of achievement and pride that is self-realized. 

Self-discipline is mobilized out of conscious habit.  You dedicate time and effort towards that which you decide as 'something' you wish to become more competent or skilled at; to have or become that which is important to you.  You utilize self-discipline because it is the framework from which you mobilize yourself into decision and action.  This could be in regards to a vocation; a creative talent that you are developing, a goal you desire to achieve, a new life practice or lifestyle that you believe in; or a new way of thinking and approaching life that inspires you based on your desire to become more.

By being self-responsible, you understand what it means to uphold commitment, desire, and resilience; even when at times this is not easy.  You deepen your resolve - your determination - each time you hold desire and rooted commitment to what is wanted with confidence and drive; and where you hold continued belief and knowing that to fail is not a possibility. 

 

Your positive habits become well equipped life skills that include a requirement of setting the bar high and yet within enough of a reach so that you can continue to be challenged to grow, to become a better version of yourself, and to see the results of the effort that you make - to accomplish, to learn, to transform, because this is your inherent nature.  You thrive in self-discipline and the desire to live as your best self.

Self-discipline is a measure of your level of commitment to yourself.

 

This is why it is so important for you as a parent to teach your children excellent habits and life practices and of course to emulate these in the way that you live.  Some examples of this include teaching the importance of completing homework as a priority each day, being helpful and contributing to household chores, and learning important life values such as being kindrespectful and of help to others.  When you practice self-discipline, you live with the important and necessary life skills that support you being accountable to your deepest desires.  Self-discipline is how you curate the means of having what you want.  The secrets and best practices that sustain you in the moments in which you are challenged, and presented with the unexpected; are the habits of self-discipline.

Self-discipline is a life skill that defines your greatness; and allows you to succeed rather than falter.  It is the mechanism that upholds you as you envision success, and as you become the ultimate version of yourself.

 

We can at different times in life, struggle with self-discipline,  We may wish to give up certain habits such as to quit smoking, to adopt new habits; such as eat consistently healthy, to eat a plant-based diet; to modify some of our less than productive choices with choices that will serve our highest good; for example to watch less Netflix, to exercise consistently or to raise the bar in achieving an ever greater level of physical fitness.  All of these requires that we revisit our well learned habits; that we make a greater commitment to our self; that we hold greater resolve for what is most important; and that we are clear and inclusive of what we want - and of our path to achieving this. 

 

In most cases, self-discipline is a matter of developing the correct mindset and the practical habits that will elevate your existing level of commitment and discipline so that you can reap the highest rewards and benefits; to have all of what you want, and to do so as you continue to grow confidence in your self and your abilities.  Self-discipline therefore becomes a way of being that abounds, influencing how you choose to live; and it is the driving force each time you hold yourself accountable to right action and as you follow through on what is most wanted.

Self-discipline is a daily success habit that affects positive change and new outcomes in all areas of your life; serving you at the highest level of your soul consciousness.

 

How can you become more self-disciplined in order to accomplish and achieve all that is most important to you?  How does self-discipline become a necessary asset, a consistent behaviour, a success mindset, and a personal belief that you uphold with ease?

The need for self-discipline comes out of a yearning for more - a desire for improving yourself, upping your game, and wanting more out of life because you are willing to be consistent in your effort - and the right effort.

 

The need for self-discipline comes out of a yearning for more. (Image of Dorothy Ratusny)

Begin here.  These three secrets represent the necessary strategy to help you develop self-discipline in a new way that will be sustainable as a life skill and a way of being that you can feel proud of.  Let self-discipline become a tenable daily life practice, and an inspired personality trait that you can rely on to get things done, to be focused and clear about what you want; and to have the resolve for staying the course - especially when your goals are large and lofty!  Pay attention to how your efforts in being disciplined pays off; which helps greatly in bolstering your confidence and success.

 

I want to share with you these three secrets of self-discipline because when you have these in place; you live with a high level of self-discipline - at all times; and it becomes a way of being that is second nature for youUsing these three secrets is how you mobilize self-discipline most effectively.  Most of us, look to enlist our self-discipline in moments when we need an extra push to get something done; or to keep the fires stoked as we work relentlessly towards a larger, lofty goal; but I'm talking about living with an exceptional level of self-discipline that is your 'go to'; that is accessible in every moment because this is what will take you to a new level - of epic success, happiness, fulfillment and purpose - lived daily.

 

The First Secret:  Self-Discipline is Fuelled By Desire.  Many people aim to cultivate self-discipline on demand but the truth is, it is your deepest desire of something that will fuel and sustain your discipline as you seek it out and live what is wanted most.  Sincere and heartfelt desire fuels impassioned action and the impetus to have what you deem to be 'most' important.  The greater the desire for what is wanted, the easier it will be to practice self-discipline, naturally.  Consistent self-discipline is what helps you to accomplish and complete tasks and objectives; it helps you to stay on track, and to be resilient as you deal with challenges.  But herein is something further, that is not often talked about; it is the self-discipline of how you choose to think about something and your belief in the attainment of it, that holds impact and meaning when your self-discipline includes the most vital means of addressing how you think about what you want.  Self-discipline aligned with your core values and belief system is what reinforces the confidence and credence that you hold in yourself, in your abilities, and in knowing that you are capable and deserving of having what you want through what direct means you will take.  (e.g. will, deliberate action, and consistent effort to achieve results of what is wanted.)

Your Success Strategy for this First Secret:  Here is what you need to know to instill self-discipline as a daily life habit that is of second nature.  To remind yourself of the ultimate 'end game' that you want. (i.e. that is, the rewards and achievements that are most desired.)  Visualize yourself in the attainment of this desire.  Positive outcomes are the result of using your innate discipline, practised as a daily habit together with the success imagery of holding in your mind the ideal that is most wanted.  Desire is fuelled by the intense focus on the having of what you want.  The best way to do this is to use visualization and the intense focus on what the desired outcome feels like, looks like, is like.  As long as you hold strong desire and meaning for why something is important; and as you feel the desire of what is wanted using your senses to create the experience in the present for an aspect of your life that you wish to change or a goal that you wish to accomplish, it will be natural (and easier) to enlist your self-discipline.  (This is helpful to keep in mind when you are working on long-term goals where you need to be consistent in your efforts and progress for an extended period of time.)  What you desire drives your commitment to being self-disciplined.  Remember:  What you want must be more important than not having it.  This is how self-discipline becomes the catalyst for the success that you seek.

 

The Second Secret:  Plan Your Strategy.  Just as you would set up a schedule for completing important tasks, and for ensuring that you are taking the right actions each day towards attaining your goal; planning your strategy is how you sustain self-discipline.  (For example, what are the daily steps that will keep you on task, what self-talk and reassurance will you rely on, and what will sustain your motivation, etc).  Know what strategies you need to implement in advance - for where you may lose momentum, or should you feel discouraged; where you may be tempted to give in or give up; and plan for how you will succeed using self-discipline in those moments.  An example of this is deciding in advance your strategy when attending a dinner party when you have a strict regime for how you are eating.  Discipline is not necessarily doing what is difficult or less enjoyable.  Discipline is not punishment nor the lack of something.  Rather, self-discipline is implementing the important decisions and best practices that will help you to accomplish what you want; without being thwarted in your efforts because you have a plan in place and you are following this regardless of what others may say or do.

  • Your Success Strategy Question for this Second Secret:  When you plan for the self-disciplined habits that you want to make a regular part of your life, it will be easier to follow your plan, knowing how important discipline is in helping you accomplish what is wanted.  In the moments when you are faced with a decision, ask yourself, "What strategy do I need to follow right now that will best support my goal of... ?"  (its important also that you name this success or goal inwardly or aloud to re-ignite your desire).  And some further relevant and helpful questions to keep you on track - and disciplined: How will I use this strategy to help me stay motivated and on point?  How will I plan my day to include self-discipline as a best practice, as self-regulation, and as an ongoing and ever-present way of living my best life?

 

The Third Secret of Self-Discipline:  Follow Through.  This can be the most challenging aspect of self-discipline, and yet when you continue to implement this secret, you've tapped into how to execute what is needed without excuses, deliberation, inaction, and whatever else may steer you off course.  Your follow through each and every time will on its own, support the momentum that will help see you through to what is most wanted.  Think of it like this:  You already are disciplined because you have the commitment to accomplish your goals and you have already begun a path towards this.  All that you need to do is listen to the inner guiding wisdom of what many refer to as their inner voice or highest self; and follow through with the action steps that will take you from where you are to your end goal.  You can hire someone to help you with "follow through", and many do so because it can be a helpful source of enforcement towards taking the right steps towards your ultimate success.  Yet, remember that no one is likely with you 24-7 - no one; that you must build the resolve first in your mind with desire, and then as a real present moment experience felt throughout your being using visualization (the first secret of self-discipline), and holding fiercely the end result of what is wanted together with the feelings of having this. 

Together with the plan for your strategy to complete your goal successfully, this third secret is the action steps that take you to the finish line.  A great way to be the voice of wisdom for yourself, is by asking inward of your highest self (which is the voice of your heart centre - your soul consciousness - and as you follow what inward dwelling answer you receive.  At times there will be an answer that may surprise you.  Sometimes the best action in a particular moment is not to do anything, especially if the action that you are deliberating is going to self-sabotage your results.  Instead, remind yourself of your commitment to your goals; and to yourself, by focusing on the feeling of this goal - achieved.  This is important because your feelings evoke action, and therefore the choices that you ultimately make.  When you imagine your goal completed (something that we spoke about in the first secret); and accomplished in the best possible way, this allows you to feel successful now.  This and all other inspiring and mobilizing feelings that come with imagining what is most important and desired to you, now here in your life, is what propels you.  Your self-enforced discipline to see your goals through to completion in made possible by your visualization and as you experience the feelings of this success, now in the present moment and throughout your body.  Let the follow through be your inner wisdom; the voice that instructs you to do what is needed; and allow yourself to follow without argument.

As you practice the positive mindset of what is wanted by visualizing yourself in the having of this end goal, you will always be guided to do the right thing. 

  • Guidance for this Success Strategy:  Let your practice of self-discipline be the result of you parenting yourself.  This is the actionable strategy that becomes a new way of being for you.  Think of this strategy as you in constant conversation with yourself; holding yourself accountable to what is needed, reminding yourself what you need to do and listening to the inner voice of resolve that will guide you to success.  That voice of reason may be similar to that of a coach; a mentor, a parent, or a teacher.  This inner voice is essentially you parenting and coaching yourself to do the right thing; and then following this - no questions asked.  Be the role of parent or coach for yourself, as you provide the messaging and game plan using your inner voice of rational discipline - self-discipline
  • No different than what your caregivers or teachers would have done to ensure that you were successful; as an adult, you need to be the parent and mentor for yourself; to demand your best; to push yourself to do what is needed; to be encouraging and supportive; and yet to enforce a path that has no alternatives, except success.  Use your inner voice as the voice of reason and power that rises up from within you.  Follow through with question on what you need to do in all moments (even when it would be easier and within your comfort zone to rest on your laurels, even though this is not something that will help you become more, better, excellent)
  • Follow through is easier when you remind yourself of the positive benefit to doing the work, to having the results you want because of your resolve and determination.  You can see how all three secrets are used interchangeably and consistently to support your self-discipline.  Your mindset must be focused entirely in the having of what is wanted; your resolve strong and 'on purpose'.  Remind yourself of the importance of follow through; of making different choices even when you would rather do what you have always done.  Follow through is taking the positive steps - the action - that sees you through to what you desire most.  It is the culmination of each and every action step along a path that results in the accomplishment of what you desire.  When you have come away from your plan for self-discipline, simply notice.  Be attentive to how you feel.  It will never feel as good as when you are on task working towards your most important goals and ideals.  Remember that it is less important if you have a temporary setback and have come away from your goal (and your practice of self-discipline) but that you return to these - with vigour, enthusiasm, and a reboot to your commitment, follow through (and discipline) in the very next moment.  The positive feeling of returning to self-discipline is empowering and it reminds you of how much better life is when you honour what is needed and necessary to live honourably and on purpose.  

 

Each of these three secrets and their respective strategies used repeatedly is the solution for what will build and reinforce the highest level of self-discipline.  This self-discipline as an ongoing life practice, and a learned success habit and personality trait; is a key approach for attaining all that is wanted in your life.  I'm going to suggest that with a current goal in mind, that you practice your new habit of self-discipline using these three secrets and strategies for a minimum period of three monthsThe true science of what it takes to make a new habit a regular behaviour is on average 66 days (but can be anywhere between 18 and 254 days as Phillippa Lally, a health psychology researcher at University College London and her team, published in the European Journal of Social Psychology).  I'm suggesting three months of living with your newly formulated level of self-discipline, which by the way you can use to help you with everything; and not just achieving goals; and making positive changes to how you live life.  Three months is still a relatively short amount of time when you consider the benefit to you for the rest of your life.

 

And finally, I want you to be successful in all of the goals that you have determined are most important and valuable based on your heartfelt desires.  In addition to this episode of The WISDOM podcast, I'd like to offer you support as you take on honing a new and high level of self-discipline.  Join me in my Facebook group: Your Best Life.... NOW!  Receive support and guidance from me and others who are upping their game and self-discipline practice to live their best life - now!

Namaste!


For upping your game, please have a look at these additional resources to support a success mindset of ultimate self-discipline.  If you would like my help and to work together on this, please reach out to me.  Namaste!! xo

The Secret to Achieving All Goals

The Psychology of Being True to Your Word

How Life Mirrors Your Inner Existence

How to Live in the Present Moment: The 3 Success Habits You Need to Know

 

Work with Me: dorothyratusny.com

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

  

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music:  Ludvig Cimbrelius - Album: Illuviation (dreamsketches) - To See /Livet Kallar Mej / It is Never To Late

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!

The 7 Pillars of Forgiveness and The Art of Forgiveness | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 12

The 7 Pillars of Forgiveness and The Art of Forgiveness | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 12

December 15, 2019

 

 

 

 

The 7 Pillars of Forgiveness and The Art of Forgiveness

The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 12

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

 TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-2:09  |   How Forgiveness is Possible: 2:13 |  Two Questions to Contemplate: 4:26  | The First Sacred Step to Forgiving:  5:49  |  How you Know Forgiveness Has Been Completed:  11:06 |  How to Use A Mantra to Be Free from the Past  13:32  |  Why We Need to Forgive:  14:12  |  The First Pillar: Let Go of Your Expectations Of What Others "Should be": 15:52 |  The Second Pillar: Practice Compassion:  18:36  |  The Third Pillar: Uphold Loving Kindness:  21:01  |  The Fourth Pillar: Be Responsible for Your Happiness:  22:15  |  The Fifth Pillar of Forgiveness: Practice Holding Gratitude:  24:19  |  The Sixth Pillar of Forgiveness: Remind Yourself of What Is True:  26:53  |  The Seventh Pillar of Forgiveness: Speak Your Truth:  29:20  |  One of the Most Helpful Life Rules for Forgiveness  32:11 | The Episode 'Afterward':  33:10  |  Your Free Downloadable Offering for This Episode:  38:51  |  Podcast Outro:  40:32

 

Forgiveness is possible as you love yourself and others, unconditionally.  When you choose to forgive another or yourself, it is because you wish to let go of suffering; to free yourself to live in the present; and to dream of the future because you have completed the work of 'for' 'giving', for releasing your attachment to the past.  The past was never in your control.  If you are forgiving another, it is so that you can have a relationship with them in the present if you so choose.  In this episode, we discuss what it means to forgive; how you know that you have forgiven completely; and how you can do this so that you are no longer carrying the weight of the past with you.  

TRUTH SERUM:  A new way of thinking about forgiveness that transcends all world religions and is the most direct path to inner peace:  Forgiveness comes from Love.  To forgive, first decide to accept; to make peace with whatever has happened by acknowledging that the past is unchangeable.  Then you can begin to hold compassion and love towards the person (and yourself) in the present.  Your love directed towards another or unto yourself is the most powerful tool for forgiveness.

A-HA MOMENTS: Forgiveness is: (Hint: break it into two words) 'for' 'giving' yourself the freedom to let go of the past and whatever has happened including what you or others have done that is not a true portrayal of who you are.  Forgiveness is 'for''giving' acceptance to what has already happened; and what you have no power to change, only the power to live from the present moment. 

PRACTICAL WISDOM: You will know when forgiveness has been completed because you will be able to think about the other person, yourself, or the situation and no longer feel the hurt, anger, (or self-loathing) that was once present.  You will instead feel an ease and lightness in your heart centre, and you will be able to identify the feeling of unconditional love and acceptance that comes about from making peace with what 'is'.  "It is your actions and mindset of the present, that allow you to make peace with your past."

 

What do you need to forgive?  (What actions, words, or thoughts?)

Who do you need to forgive?  (Including yourself.)

If you want to forgive, its likely because you want to free yourself from a situation in which you are harbouring feelings of hurt, anger, or another form of suffering.  Forgiveness is (Hint: break it into two words) 'for' 'giving' yourself the freedom to let go of the past and whatever has happened including what you or others have done that is not a true portrayal of who you are.  Forgiveness is 'for' 'giving' acceptance to what has already happened; and what you have no power to change, only the power to live from the present moment.  Are you ready to experience the release of your hurt and suffering?  Have you been telling yourself that you have forgiven another (or yourself) because you very much want to, but in thinking about past situations, do you still feel all of these same hurts, sadness, or anger.  Do you know that you can forgive completely?

 

So let's begin with a new way of thinking about forgiveness that transcends all world religions and is the most direct path to inner peace.

Forgiveness Comes From Love

"Love for another, or yourself needs to come first; in place of what hurt, anger, blame, and suffering you have been holding onto.  When you choose to forgive, it requires your willingness to make peace with what has happened.  If you hold onto hurts and situations in which you have been wronged, it will seem impossible to forgive a person or their actions, or both.  To forgive, first decide to accept; to make peace with whatever has happened by acknowledging that the past is unchangeable.  Then you can begin to hold compassion and love towards the person (and yourself) in the presentYour love directed towards another or unto yourself is the most powerful tool for forgiveness."     -Dorothy Ratusny

Forgiveness is 'giving up' the suffering that exists when you hold onto past situations and experiences and whatever is not in the present moment.  Choose forgiveness above anything else.  Let your desire for feeling peace, and for accepting what already is, be what gives you objective and the ability to be 'here and now'; your life is no longer lived in the re-experiencing of past hurts and wounds.

Forgiveness allows for the release of what causes you to suffer.  This includes any of the self-inflicted hurt that you have been carrying, because of your decision (whether consciously or unconsciously) to continue re-living the unpleasant thoughts and feelings of that situation as you maintain blame directed towards another (or yourself).  It is unlikely that the other person is even aware of the extent of damage or hurt that they have caused.  It is not up to another person to make you feel better

Even with an heartfelt apology, you can still harbour negativity and hurt feelings.  So it becomes a decision; your decision to release the past through acceptance and the willingness to live life in the present and to do what is going to be most helpful for you to feel happiness and whole.  Consider if you have been unable to forgive what has happened; such as a car accident, or an injury or illness, and you continue to point blame or fault for the situation.  This will inhibit your ability to physically, emotionally, and mentally heal; to recover fully; and to feel at peace.  Remember that your power lies in your ability to live of the present moment; to act and react based on your present moment experiences including what you will remind yourself of that is not within your control, nor ability to change.

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 "It is your actions and mindset of the present, that allow you to make peace with your past."

- Dorothy Ratusny

 

Forgiveness may take months, or even years to complete; based on the depth of your hurt and how long you have carried this suffering, giving it your (unwanted) attention and energy.  Think of it as similar to layers that you shed, each layer is what you have constructed to armour you; to protect you from feeling hurt or angry even though these layers have not been needed.  Instead, you have simply needed to refrain from holding onto and reliving what is past.

You will know when forgiveness has been completed because you will be able to think about the other person, yourself, or the situation and no longer feel the hurt, anger, (or self-loathing) that was once present.  You will instead feel an ease and lightness in your heart centre, and you will be able to identify the feeling of unconditional love and acceptance that comes about from making peace with what 'is'.

 

 

Complete forgiveness is.... the release of your suffering and blame, in place of holding peace; and for 'for' 'giving' thanks for your ability to do so.

Check out this video on Complete Forgiveness

 

Here's why you need to forgive:

When you feel consumed by hurt, sadness, anger, or any other difficult emotion whenever you think about a situation, an exchange of words, the absence (or presence) of an action, or any other condition that did not meet your expectations, you suffer.  Each time you think about the situation or the other person, you relive the same feelings - usually as intense as they were originally.  Your belief that you have been wronged and that you are justified for feeling the way you do keeps you in a cycle of suffering.

You choose forgiveness because you no longer wish to relieve the past.  You recognize that it is far better for you to feel at peace with a situation, yourself, or another, rather than continue to harbour damaging and unresolved feelings, because these feelings left unhealed continue to cause discomfort.

 

The 7 Pillars of Forgiveness describe the steps that lead you from what you feel now, into peace, acceptance and a new reality of truth that is comforting.  Each pillar is also a best practice that makes it easier for you to walk through life without forming hurts and for holding grudges.

 

 

One of the most helpful 'life rules' that you could ever live by is to accept others as they are; and without needing them to uphold your standards.  You may be attentive, and to assess what you observe in others, and yet it is helpful to do so without criticism or judgment.  You can always offer your help and guidance to another in a desire to help them improve their situation, together with healthy boundaries that reflect your understanding that it is always up to another how they will choose to be.  This is one of the most effective life practices for having healthy, loving relationships.

 

'Forgiveness is always needed whenever you are not willing to let go of hurt; and when you have made another responsible for how you feel.' 

- dorothy ratusny

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Afterward:

Whenever you observe others with kindness and curiosity, you learn more about who they are.  This is an effective life practice that allows us to be observers and to learn rather than critique and judge others based on their differences.  Continue to remind yourself of what you are being shown and what you are learning through your desire for forgiveness and for alleviating suffering.  If you can look at what "has happened to you" as an opportunity for learning something new about yourself and another, you are more likely to find relief in trusting the wisdom of life to reveal precisely what you need to understand and know in order to further your personal growth.  Much of the inner work of forgiveness is inspired by a deeper (and instinctual desire) that we all have for feeling inner peace, for improving connection and closeness in our relationships, for no longer relying on others for feeling happy and having self-worth, and for ultimately becoming more.  This is also known as individuation; the ability to be independent in relying on and providing for your needs, and to feel integral happiness and love for your self.

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"To forgive allows you to heal yourself of the past; to let go of whatever hurt, anger, and sadness you may have been holding onto, that has been causing you to suffer." - Dorothy Ratusny

Most of all forgiveness allows you to experience the process of deliberate co-creation.  When you seek out healing from a past situation with forgiveness, you are allowing the natural rhythm of life and the need for maintaining presence in this moment.  When you allow for what 'is' in the present moment, you can experience others and yourself as you are, rather than continuing to relive situations of the past.  This allows you to make decisions based on what is important now; and for what you are in full control of.  When you judge others or yourself based on a situation of the past, you are not truly in control of 'now'.  Let go of the impulse to judge based on a situation or a time of the past, in which you have no control, and which is not an accurate portrayal of who the person (or your self) is in that moment.  Remind yourself of the need to live of the present moment; to view and make decisions based on what is important now.  This will also help you to release grudges or hurts; to accept what you have no control over and cannot change.  I believe this is a forward thinking concept which changes the way in which we think about our experiences and one that I hope you will find of much help.

 

Here is where mindfulness and conscious awareness become your helpful allies.  When you allow yourself to exist in the present moment; as you witness situations, others, and yourself without needing to place any labels or judgment on what you experience, you are more easily able to approach all situations in life from a neutral position.  When you hold grudges, resentment, and hurt, you are holding others responsible and as the cause for how you feel.

I hope that this episode offers much practical and spiritual wisdom for living the 7 pillars, for practising complete forgiveness so that you may feel at peace in your life.  Please remember that forgiveness of many past hurts, and trauma occurs in stages, and as you seek to release in acceptance of all of what is in the past.  I wanted to share a few resources for you as each offers further wisdom that may resonate differently with you; and to open you further for allowing complete forgiveness into your heart.  And remember, forgiveness if 'for' 'giving' to yourself; for releasing your suffering first and foremost. 

 

Episode Resources:

How To Curate Innate Happiness

Forgiveness... Begins with Your Heart Wide Open

The Power of Forgiveness

To Work with Me: dorothyratusny.com

 

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Home' from the Album - "Self"

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help!