The WISDOM Podcast with Dorothy Zennuriye Juno
Set Yourself Free | The WISDOM podcast | S3  Bonus Episode 1

Set Yourself Free | The WISDOM podcast | S3 Bonus Episode 1

September 24, 2022

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Set Yourself Free 

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Bonus Episode 1

 

~This is a message of healing and personal choice.  ~

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Maybe it is one of the hardest decisions - to let go of another person and a relationship that you have had all of your life.

Maybe you have deliberated this for some time, and questioned yourself about your decision to step free.

 

This episode follows some of the earlier content of Season Three on the topic of abuse, of trauma, and of the ways in which we can heal ourselves.

 

I wrote this episode as a message of healing and to offer you permission to step away; to set yourself free from those who continue to be hurtful and who have repeatedly shown you that they are not ready nor willing to change.

 

Whether the pattern of abuse and trauma has occurred in your family of origin, or if it has existed in a workplace environment ~ and if you have felt trapped and unable to break free, let this episode offer you both the permission and the viable means in which to free yourself ~ to stand strong on your own ground of what you know is right and best for you.

 

Remember that you need to choose this because others have chosen to continue in their abusive and harmful words and actions. 

 

There is no blame, only acceptance and permission ~ to live in peace.

 

I hope that my words here will help you ~ empower you ~ liberate you to live free. 

Namaste! 💜

 

More on the subject here:

The Cycle of Abuse Stops With You ~ 'ask dorothy' ~ A Real Life Client Story  [Podcast S3 E34]

Escaping Abuse: Why We Stay ~ How To Leave For Good ~ 4 Strategies to End The Cycle  [Podcast S2 E10]

How to Release the Trauma You've Been Keeping  [Podcast S3 E24]

The Voice of Trauma [Podcast S3 E33]

The Violence That We Cause Others ~ AHIMSA  [Podcast S3 E40]

 

 

SANTOSHA ~ Contentment | The Niyamas Series: 2/5 | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E51

SANTOSHA ~ Contentment | The Niyamas Series: 2/5 | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E51

June 5, 2022

SANTOSHA ~ Contentment ~ 

The Niyamas Series: 2 of 5

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 51

 

~ "Contentment is falling in love with your life.” - Swami Rama  ~

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Welcome to this series on the Niyamas. Niyama is Sanskrit for “rules, guidelines, or observances.” Niyamas appear in Hindu and Buddhist texts, and they are best known as the second limb of the eight limbs of yoga, as described in Patanjali's Yoga Sutras.

 

In Indian traditions, particularly Yoga, Niyamas and their complement, Yamas, are recommended activities and habits for healthy living, spiritual enlightenment, and a liberated state of existence.

 

The five niyamas the focus of this series ~ are constructive tools for cultivating happiness and self-confidence; the opportunity to practice and live in the balance of each of these arises in almost every moment day.

 

The five Niyamas are practices to be nurtured and cultivated. They will remain with us throughout our lives taking us ever deeper into the subtle realms of our being, moving us closer to the stillness inside.

 

The Niyamas as spiritual and practical teachings lead us beyond the body (in our activity and our asanas) and our mind (in meditation). Without them, samadhi ~ a state of joyful calm, or even of rapture and beatitude, in which one maintains full mental alertness and acuity ~ would be an impossible dream.

 

I also invite to check out my 5-part series on the Yamas next. These are moral disciplines that transcend all world religions as guiding us to live of our light and our highest self. I will leave links for this series in the description.

 

 

In this episode I cite and also quote directly from Deborah Adele’s book: The Yamas and Niyamas. Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practice. Her wise words guide us into the practical and the spiritual as we explore the significance of the focus of this episode and the niyama santosha or “contentment” as well as “delight, happiness, joy.”

 

Santosha invites us into contentment by taking refuge in a calm centre, opening our hearts in gratitude for what we do have, and practising the paradox of ‘not seeking’.

'Not seeking' as not needing to be seeking and grasping whilst missing out on what is right in front of us ~ and often what is pure perfection.

 

While there is always a place and a need to look forward and plan the future, it is equally important to measure this with the balance of enjoying what is right here and now and directly in front of us. This is how we cultivate contentment for ‘what is’.

 

Along with getting ready for the next thing we seek, we tend to look at people’s lives and then decide what is missing from our own, rather than appreciate what we have.

When we compare ourselves to others and envy them, we move ourselves into a state of lack and disappointment. This moves us further away from feeling contentment, complete, and whole.

 

Contentment arises out of acceptance—of life, of ourselves, and of whatever life is offering to us in the present.

If you live the practice of Santosha ~ life would instantly be happier, easier, better, and with far more freedom to enjoy ‘what is’.

When we are content, we are happy. Thus—and here is the practice of this niyama—through the power of contentment, happiness becomes our choice.

 

Please join me in this beautiful practice.  Send me a note! Let me know how you are living the practice of santosha in your life.

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, connect with me here:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

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More WISDOM and resources on the Niyamas:

* The Yamas & Niyamas  [Book by Deborah Adele]

 

* APARIGRAHA ~ Non-Attachment  [Podcast S3 E47]  * The Yamas Series: 5/5

* BRAHMACHARYA ~ Non-Excess  [Podcast S3 E45]  * The Yamas Series: 4/5

* ASTEYA ~ Non-Stealing  [Podcast S3 E43]  * The Yamas Series: 3/5

* SATYA ~ Truthfulness  [Podcast S3 E41]  * The Yamas Series: 2/5

* AHIMSA ~ Nonviolence  [Podcast S3 E39]  * The Yamas Series: 1/5

 

* How Do I Become Whole?  [Podcast Episode S2 E56]

* Forgiveness IS F R E E D O M  [Podcast Episode S3 E35]

* Self-Love is 'Being Love'  [Podcast Episode S3 E29]

* Live Your Greatness [Podcast Episode Season 1 Episode 1]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Voice of Trauma | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E33

The Voice of Trauma | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E33

April 1, 2022

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The Voice of Trauma

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 33

 

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When you give your traumatic experience a voice it means that you do more than retell the story or ruminate on the anxiety and fear from a victim standpoint.

If you are ready to release the trauma ~ to transcend it ~ ‘it’ first needs the expression of your honesty and truth. ~

 

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In this episode we look to the importance of giving trauma a voice; of acknowledging the hurt that has been caused to you by another and to give a compassionate and honourable voice to help others heal what trauma you have caused.

 

“When you acknowledge your mistakes ~ particularly mistakes in which you have caused harm to another whether intentionally or unintentionally, you hold the power to help heal the relationship and the experience of another.

 

You also free yourself from the hurt that you have caused and you create the opportunity for transformation ~ to no longer cause suffering through your words and actions.”

 

Trauma is defined as: a hurt and a wound ~ whether emotional, physical, or psychological.

 

The way out of trauma is through active healing and the choice to no longer live as a victim.

 

To give trauma a voice is to acknowledge where you are in relation to your experience.

 

Whether the trauma was fifteen years or three months earlier, it is still not of the present. It’s imprint can only cause you harm if you consciously or subconsciously continue to dwell on replaying the trauma ~ of what is the past and cannot be changed.

 

To give a traumatic situation a voice ~ is to acknowledge what wrong doing you are responsible for.

 

For example, if you lose control of your emotions and react with anger and this anger escalates further in your conflict into rage, and as you direct your rage at another ~ is it enough to say “I’m sorry?”

 

“I’m sorry” is a start. It is in the remorse and empathy you feel together with compassion for the suffering of another that you were responsible for, that you must give voice to.

 

Your voice is the acknowledgement of sorrow and the admittance of wrongdoing. This and any other steps that you can take to help another become the tools of healing for you both.

 

Trauma for any past situation is the trauma that you need to give voice to ~ to say “this happened”. This happened and then I did this to heal from what happened.

This is how you live empowered to continue your journey of truth seeking ~ and your delivery into who and what you live now.

 

 

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

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More Healing and Self-Love:  💜

 

*  Prayers for Healing Trauma [PDF with links to Two Mantra Prayers 🙏]

*  Emotional Intelligence and Trauma  [Podcast Episode]

*  The Cycle of Abuse Stops With You  [Podcast Episode]

*  Forgiveness IS F R E E D O M  [Podcast Episode]

*  This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

*  The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Reflection Bundle

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Compassion and Kindness Bundle

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Forgiveness Bundle

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Awareness and Acceptance Bundle

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

*  The Power of Self-Honesty: How Honest Are You Willing To Be?  [Podcast Episode Season 3]

 

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

*  Receive my Weekly Love Notes  [Sign up Here]

 

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

Perseverance | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E26

Perseverance | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E26

March 6, 2022

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Perseverance

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 26

Perseverance aligned with chosen destiny and clear heartfelt desire is where the magic happens. ~

 

 

 

The textbook definition of perseverance is: the continued effort to do and/or achieve something. It is determination, steadfastness; adherence despite difficulty, failure or opposition.

 

I talk about perseverance because it encapsulates the skills of clarity – of knowing what you want and being willing to pursue this including all of what you learn about yourself in the process.

 

The skill of discipline is necessary for perseverance; for knowing what it means to show up and to do the work towards all that you desire.

 

You can be crystal clear about your goals and what you need to do but it is the action together with the discipline for seeing and living this process that awakens you to the challenge of what is needed.

 

Discipline is also how you boldly complete your action (steps) with conviction because you know that it is the daily actions that become the lifetime of success and rewards that you live.

 

 

What do you need to persevere? What skills, positive habits, clarity of mind, decisiveness, resolve, belief?

 

 

What is one thing that you are persevering now?

 

What actions best support you?

 

 

What would you define as the skills and the mindset of perseverance?

- Is it positive attitude?

- Is it assessment of what is most important to you and why?

- Is it owning your value and worth?

- Is it being of love in the world?

- Is it dedication to follow a right plan and a path – and to always do the right thing?

- Is it to be unstoppable?

– Is to focus on the end goals – and what you will accomplish today, this week, month, this year?

 

 

Why do you need to persevere at this? (at this one thing or many things)

 

Do you want something? Are you seeking to become something?

 

 

If you would like my help as you persevere to complete your goals, and as you wish to live a more spiritual life, please reach out to me.  namaste! 🙏

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram  Facebook

 

 

More  l o v e  and  w i s d o m:

* How to Live As Love  [YouTube Video]

* Balance as the Trilogy of Mind-Body-and Soul.  [Podcast Episode]

* The Kindness Challenge  [The WISDOM BLOG]

* Live Your Greatness [Podcast Episode Season 1]

* This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Do You Let Love In? How to Feel Deserving of Love  [Podcast Episode]

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

 

Somewhere Between The Rage and the Silence: Mastering Self-Regulation | Part 2/3 on Emotional Intelligence | ’ask dorothy’ | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E19

Somewhere Between The Rage and the Silence: Mastering Self-Regulation | Part 2/3 on Emotional Intelligence | ’ask dorothy’ | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E19

February 2, 2022

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'ask dorothy'

Somewhere Between The Rage and the Silence: Mastering Self-Regulation | A Real Life Client Story

Part 2/3 on Emotional Intelligence

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3 Episode 19

 

-  Self-Regulation is one of the five basic competencies of emotional intelligence.  -

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Timestamps:

Does This Sound Familiar?  0-1:33 |  Podcast Theme Intro:  1:34 | How You Learned Emotional Dysregulation:  4:12 | Your Amygdala Hijacking:  5:32 |The Role of Your Frontal Lobes in Self-Control:  6:39 | What Makes You Emotionally Intelligent:  7:48 |  My Client Gary and wife Silvana: 9:45 |  What is Your Typical Emotional Reaction?  13:13 |  The 3 Best Skills of Self-Regulation:  13:34 | 1. Breath and Your Vagus Nerve:  15:13 |  2. Self-Assessment:  17:15 |  3. Self-Regulation Strategy: 18:27 | Let's Dive Deeper Together: 22:04 | Podcast Theme Outro:  23:04

 

What if you grew up in a household where one parent would lose their cool a lot? They would yell at the top of their lungs whether in general frustration or as a means of calling attention to something that you or one of your siblings wasn’t doing or was doing that you shouldn’t be. What if both parents did that and it became a normative culture to witness raised voices every time someone was frustrated or angry?

What if yelling by one or both parents was taught as acceptable based on the rationalization that ‘yelling is the only way for me to get you to listen.”

Or, perhaps in your home you witnessed one or both parents blaming another person or a situation for how they feel. For example, making an external condition the source of one’s stress rather than looking to one’s thoughts and perceptions as the cause of one’s feelings.

We all have experiences growing up of how difficult emotions were demonstrated. Anger, sadness and anxiety are the three most common emotions that we struggle with.

 

How you learned to express your emotions is largely a facet of what you were taught; what was shown repeatedly and what therefore became normalized.

Welcome to part two in this three part series on Emotional Intelligence. I would like to set the record by stating we all have learned from our caregivers how to display emotions. Whether inappropriate and unhealthy such as in the examples I cited earlier, or as in some households, at first glance it would seem that no one ever gets angry. Everyone seems so pleasant and calm. In some families difficult and unwanted emotions are rarely shared and expressed openly. You may have learned to choke back what you feel; to store it away; to not let others really know what is bothering you, or how angry you really are.

 

In part one of this series on Emotional intelligence, I shared my client Anastasia’s story of how one situation – one critical moment became the tipping point that changed her life forever; and that became the precipice for building what was an absence of emotional regulation and other basic competencies such as empathy and self-awareness.

 

If you haven’t yet, please listen next to part one, and then join me as we wrap up this series in part three and the true story of another client – and how in honing the skills (the competencies) of emotional intelligence, helped to overcome the experiences of their past trauma.

Here in part two, I share the impact of emotional dysregulation as it specifically relates to living in a state of constant amygdala hijacking; and how the psychological stresses (whether real or imagined) can create a feedback loop of reacting to stress.

 

You are about to meet my client Gary* and his wife Silvana*.  Each member of this couple was in a constant state of dysregulation - and both triggered by the other's reaction to their expression of  emotion.

 

To help, I share the three best strategies (used in conjunction with each other) to successfully self-regulate emotions.  If you've ever lost control of your emotions, you'll want to learn these effective strategies!! Join me!

 

* The names of my clients (and their loved ones) have been changed to maintain confidentiality.

 

Each Tuesday at 8pm EST, I take you on a journey - inside - what happens in a session of Life Coaching and Therapy in the 'ask dorothy' series as we answer the questions that honour your path and your life.

 

 

If you would like my help as you build these five competencies of EI (emotional intelligence) please reach out to me.  namaste! 🙏

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

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Emotional Intelligence Learning and Love:

* Part 1/3: Your Emotional Self Needs to Learn This  [Podcast Episode]

Why Taking a Deep Breath Feels Good  [Medium]

* Your Vagus Nerve  [Online Resource] 

* The Amygdala Hijack  [Online Resource]

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman  [Book]

* Emotional Alchemy by Tara Bennett-Goleman  [Book]

* Developing Emotional Intelligence [YouTube Video]

* Live Your Greatness [Podcast Episode Season 1]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

 

”We All Love One Another” | Wisdom For A New Era  | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E10

”We All Love One Another” | Wisdom For A New Era | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E10

January 2, 2022

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"We All Love One Another" | WISDOM for a New Era

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 10

- a heartfelt plan if you looking to reconnect with yourself, and as you grow along your spiritual path -

Welcome to a special episode to guide you forward into a new year of life and also into each new day that opens your heart to love, to great mystery and to the promise that life is truly the most compelling vision of personal desire and mastery.  

 

As you live in majesty of life’s ever-present wisdom and beauty; and in the knowledge of what you are as a spiritual being and a being of love.

 

After listening, please continue on as I have also included a beautiful meditation.  It is a practice and a sacred teaching of how you can live as light and love.

 

And if you would like my help as you navigate this new year in your life; to find and reach your greatness, your goals, your personal triumphs....please reach out to me.  namaste! 🙏

 

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here:  

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram  Facebook

 

 

More  l o v e  and  w i s d o m:

* How to Live As Love  [YouTube Video]

* The Kindness Challenge [Read The WISDOM BLOG post here]

* Live Your Greatness [Podcast Episode Season 1]

* This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Do You Let Love In? How to Feel Deserving of Love  [Podcast Episode]

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

When Is It Burnout? | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast  | S2 E83

When Is It Burnout? | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast | S2 E83

June 23, 2021

'ask dorothy'

When Is It Burnout?| A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 83

 

If you are listening because you have been wondering if what you are feeling is burnout; if the past nearly sixteen months at the time of release of this episode has been some of the most challenging of your adult life; and if you can’t seem to shake the lack of motivation; the dulled or blunted emotions, the constant pressure you have placed upon yourself and what you feel from others; and the chronic emotional and physical exhaustion that has become your new normalcy, here I offer some of the best strategies and novel ideas to help you shake the feeling of exhaustion and burnout that you’ve been living with in one full swoop. The prescription is simple; the challenge will be to make this a new solid habit that you integrate as a lifestyle practice.

 

Dive in with me to this. You are closer than you think to reaching the other side; to release the symptoms of burnout and instead enjoy the experience of continual rejuvenation, relief, imagination, inspiration and hope.

 

Listen as I share my client Kim's* story of how she unknowingly crossed over into the zone of burnout and what best practices and strategies were most helpful to change her approach to her work and to the rest of her life.

 

*The name of my client has been changed to maintain confidentiality. Her story is real.

 

Resources and Recommended Reading:

Burnout Signs

Online Burnout Checklist

 

Sending you great 💜love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram

 

More Resources and Love:

This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

 

What’s Beneath Your Anger? | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast  | S2 E81

What’s Beneath Your Anger? | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast | S2 E81

June 15, 2021

'ask dorothy'

What's Beneath Your Anger?| A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 81

 

A recent session with my client Hayley illuminated what we have all experienced; and what surfaced during our time together was the simplicity of what you can do to help yourself in situations where you feel an unwanted and uncomfortable emotion. In Hayley’s case, she identified it as agitation, irritation, and a growing feeling of anger.

 

I dove right in to the question: What’s beneath the anger? Hayley laughed and replied, “Good question!”

 

Sometimes we just need to stop for a moment and do a deep dive into our self. Our focus can be on getting through something or pushing past an emotion and we may not realize how important it is to stop and acknowledge our feelings. Hayley knew immediately why she was feeling unnerved and – her words: “unraveled”.

The name of my client has been changed to maintain confidentiality. Her story is real.

 

Resources and Recommended Reading:

Feeling Angry

 

Sending you great 💜love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram

 

More Resources and Love:

This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

How PTSD Happens  | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story  | The WISDOM podcast  S2 E71

How PTSD Happens | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast S2 E71

May 11, 2021

'ask dorothy'

How PTSD Happens| A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 71

 

Here I share the story of a client: of whom I continue to work with at the time of writing this. Her name has been changed to protect her identity; her story is real.

 

Carol – a 26yr old female living and working in North America never knew that the physical, verbal and emotional abuse she sustained in a 3-yr relationship with a boy she met whilst still living in her homeland of China would be the reason for why she has been suffering with PTSD or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

 

Let me define first what this is because if you are listening; if you or someone you know has experienced exposure to trauma you – or they – may also be experiencing the ongoing symptoms of this mental health condition that often goes undiagnosed; the focus may instead be on one or some of its symptoms without truly understanding the magnitude of the impact of this disorder beyond the abuse itself.

 

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition in which people experience a variety of symptoms following exposure to a traumatic event. These may include flashbacks, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, avoidance, and changes in mood and thinking. Symptoms may include re-experiencing the traumatic event, avoiding reminders of the trauma, startling easily, and having negative thoughts and beliefs.

 

Not every abusive relationship will traumatize someone to the point where they are exhibiting symptoms of PTSD, but it is possible. If you or someone you know has experienced prolonged abuse of any form; whether a witness to this or directly, and perpetrated by someone that was supposed to love and respect you, it is worthwhile to complete a screening tool or checklist for PTSD.

 

I invite you to use the link that I will place in the description for both an online post-traumatic stress disorder screening tool and a self-assessment tool that can help make sense of why you may be feeling the way you do. I will also leave resources for treatment so that you can begin to help yourself.

 

Resources

* Depression in COVID-19 Times: 'Take the Test' + The 12 Best Natural Solutions to Heal Yourself  [Podcast Episode] 

* A Time of Rebirth And Awakening: of Love, of Humanity, and the Earth  [Podcast Episode]

* Online Screening Tool for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

* Assessment Tool for PTSD (online)

* The School of WISDOM [Online Courses, Workshops, Trainings]

* The Wisdom Archives [Meditation Library]

 

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

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When Self-Soothing Becomes an Addiction | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 3

When Self-Soothing Becomes an Addiction | The WISDOM podcast | Season 1 Episode 3

October 13, 2019

 

When Self-Soothing Becomes an Addiction

 

The WISDOM Podcast  Season 1  Episode 3

with Dorothy Ratusny

 

TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-1:32  |  The Origins of Self-Soothing:  1:33 |  What Do You Do to Self-Soothe?  4:46  |  Self-Soothing as Self-Care and Self-Love:  5:36  |  Habit Forming Activities that Soothe Children:  9:43  |  Self-Soothing As A Coping Mechanism:  11:40  |  The Power of Self-Soothing:  12:37   |  Three Natural Sources of Self-Soothing:  20:13 |  How to Live in Homeostatic Balance Using Your Breath:  23:41   

 

 

From infancy, each of us has a natural inclination to self-soothe.  Self soothing is a way of relaxing our central nervous system; of calming the body and mind; of experiencing relief and the absence of whatever stress we may be facing.  We experience self-soothing from our caregivers as touch, as love, as food and sustenance, and as a comfortable and safe environment.  For example having the comfort of our favourite toys or blanket always available, a means of exploring our surroundings safely; and to feel secure knowing that our needs are always taken care of.  Parents who are sensitive and attentive to their child's needs, and who also encourage their child to soothe themselves in healthy ways; foster these important abilities - of self-nourishment and self-care, learned from an early age.

 

As a child we instinctively look to calm our self in moments when we feel anxious, scared, angry, or sad.  Learning to self-soothe is vital for healthy development and it is an important skill for nurturing emotional and physical well-being.

 

The ritual of self-soothing continues throughout life.  How we are comforted and soothed as a child influences the habits that we adopt to soothe our self as adults.  We often don't consider self-soothing as a strategy for feeling comfort, ease, and relief each time we feel anxiety, fear, sadness or any other unpleasant state; and yet it is perhaps the most important means of feeling better.

 

We may not make the direct connection between what we or our caregivers did to comfort and soothe our self in childhood, and what we continue to do today to alleviate tension, anxiety, fear; and to calm ourselves, to feel better, to escape momentarily from our life and to recover after uncomfortable, unpleasant, or threatening situations (usually situations where we have a lack of control, where there is conflict, or unrelenting stress; and in some cases - trauma).  

 

Self-soothing tendencies can be a healthy form of self-regulation and a means of creating optimal balance between mind and body; if we choose behaviours that are helpful and healthy.

 

What do you do to self-soothe?

Consider for a moment what you instinctively do to make yourself feel better? to escape? to reward yourself? to cope when feeling pressure and stress? to unwind and relax?

The power of self-soothing lies in your ability to recognize the importance of being self-aware (mindful) of your needs at any given moment.  When you are out of touch with, or not attending to your basic fundamental needs; or if you do what you've always done to self-soothe rather than take notice of what you truly need; and how you might best give this to yourself, you will likely resort to the well-learned strategies that are already in place; most of which originated out of what you were taught and perhaps what you developed out of necessity in order to evoke feeling a way that is desirable for you.

 

Three of the most readily available and natural sources of feeling 'in balance' and 'in control' as productive and healthy means of self-soothing are: exercise, sleep, and meditation (which can also include prayer).

As a special gift and practice, I invite you to experience this 15-Minute Meditation of focused awareness on your breath; and as a means of soothing self-regulation.  Meditation also helps by modifying the brain's activity to achieve calmness, naturally.  Consider this as a new skill that you develop with practice and patience; and as a helpful way to self-soothe- naturally.

 

 Practical and Healthy Solutions for Self-Soothing:

 

 

 INSTACALM Rx

 a 15 Minute Meditation for Self-Soothing

 

Choosing to live in a state of optimal homeostatic balance helps bring to light the fact that self-soothing is a necessary and important life practice.  Most ideal methods are quite simple and require very minimal effort to practice readily.  You can begin to implement helpful self-soothing strategies as you learn how to be mindful; and by practising conscious awareness of how you feel and what you are in need of in any given moment.

 

One of the simplest and most powerful ways to self-soothe is to rely on your breath as a means of feeling calm and returning your attention to the present moment.  In the present moment you can best assess how you feel and what your needs are; in the present moment there can never be anxiety, fear, or sadness because in the present you are simply being.

 

 

 INSTACALM Rx

 a 15 Minute Meditation for Self-Soothing

Instantly Access Instacalm Rx: A Meditation for Self-Soothing

 

Use your breath as a natural method of experiencing self-awareness.  As you become experienced with conscious (mindful) breathing (as one simple yet helpful strategy), you begin to see that deliberate conscious breathing is a powerful means of helping you reestablish focus, of calming your body and mind, and for feeling soothed.

The enhanced awareness you experience from conscious breathing will also help you identify what you need in any given moment; so that you are able to provide this for yourself.  Most of us need only the simplest of things when we feel stressed, worried, angered, or any other unwanted emotion.  Any of your unhealthy choices are the automatic habits and unconscious actions that you had previously learned; and which have never truly been the right solution for feeling authentic happiness.

"Your breath is the connection between mind and body and it is also a way for you to cultivate a connection with and to experience the Divine (what we call God, Allah, Source, Universal Consciousness)." - dorothy

 

I'd also like to share with you the science of why taking a deep breath feels so good; and the many health benefits of making this a conscious practice in your daily life.

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, A. Karneichuk.

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music:  'To See' by Ludvig Cimbrelius

 

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

 

love, dorothy

 

 

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