Escaping Abuse: Why We Stay ~ How To Leave For Good ~ 4 Strategies to End The Cycle | The WISDOM podcast | S2 E10

 

 

 TIMESTAMPS:

Podcast Intro:  0-1:32  |  Definition of Abuse: 1:34 |  Episode highlights including my client 'Beth' and the 4 Strategies You Need to Know to Help You Leave An Abusive Relationship:  1:55  | Why We Stay: 3:11  |  The Real Life Client Story of 'Beth': 12:13  | How Does Someone Find Themselves in An Abusive Relationship?  24:36  |  What Self-Worth Is:  28:29  |  The Four Best Strategies to Help You Leave and Also, Keep You Out of an Abusive Relationship:  33:30  |  Final Guidance and Words of Wisdom: 47:35  |  Podcast Outro: 50:22  

 

 

In this episode I want to remind you of the power that you hold to choose for yourself the right and best relationship, and how you can stay clear of relationships that are damaging and abusive.

I also wish to illustrate how living with abuse, perpetuates a cycle of dependency and the eradicating of one's self-worth and sense of self; and I will share the story of my client 'Beth', and the four strategies to prevent you from finding yourself in an abusive relationship and enable you to leave.

TRUTH SERUM:  There are many forms of abuse. Abuse is, by definition, the mistreatment of another; whether intentional or as a facet of one's consistent actions that one may not be self-aware of.

A-HA MOMENTS:  Abuse in the traditional variant forms that we categorize as physical, emotional, and psychological all originate with one's thoughts and beliefs; that is what one tells one's self and justifies in being discriminating, hurtful, and disrespectful towards another, and how one's misguided intentions can lead into a situation and a relationship that is both damaging and abusive.

 

PRACTICAL WISDOM:  We know that relationships that are unhealthy and abusive are also complex and complicated. We stay in these relationships for different reasons; whether because we have convinced ourselves that there is something of benefit to us in staying; or we anticipate the enormous effort it will take to execute our decision to leave. We stay because we tell our self that the "relationship is really not that bad"; that maybe "we deserve how we are being mistreated"; and in some cases, we may tell ourselves "we don't care."

For whatever the reasons you may have found yourself with an abusive partner, know that by continuing to remain in the relationship, you continue to sacrifice yourself; emotionally, spiritually, physically, and cognitively or mentally.

If you are listening to this episode because something deep within you is yearning for help, guidance, and perhaps validation of what you know but have been afraid to believe, I hope that in listening, you will allow your inner voice to become louder, to rely on it for what you know is true and to be willing to care for yourself first with the knowledge that you are not alone, that you will get through this; that you will feel better, happier, and stronger; and that if and when you choose it, you can and will find the right partner and the love that you truly want.

 

 

Here, is a link to download a PDF with episode notes and the questions that I encourage you to ask, that will help you to mobilize yourself to take action. 💜

*If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me.  You can find me at: dorothyratusny.com.

 

Find all Episodes here: https://www.dorothyratusny.com/wisdompodcast/

Love in your inbox? Subscribe to Dorothy's weekly WISDOM Notes here:

 

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell 'Melting While Falling' and 'Home'

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, Pavel Kirpikau for your incredible help! https://platosound.com/