Sunday Oct 20, 2019
Sunday Oct 20, 2019
"If You Doubt Your Greatness, Do You Have The Imposter Syndrome?" with Dorothy Ratusny
the Wisdom Podcast Season 1 Episode 4
Podcast Intro: 0-2:10 | What Causes the Imposter Syndrome and What Is It? 2:11 | Are You Living Inauthentic? 6:58 | The Two Most Compelling Questions To Ask If You Have Feelings of Being An Imposter: 13:11 | The Four Most Common Negative Core Beliefs: 15:07 | How To Establish A New, Healthy Core Belief: 16:19 | The Five Best Strategies for Overcoming the Feeling of Being An Imposter: 19:11 | Check Out the Downloadable Quiz! 31:02
"Our beliefs about our self and our abilities are established very early in life. The words and messages that we repeatedly hear in childhood become what we believe as "truth." This includes any or all of the less than kind ways in which we may have learned to think about our self.
Our caregivers have but one sacred opportunity to help us nurture and develop healthy self esteem; and this occurs during the earliest part of our life – fundamentally in the first five years as we are learning and taking in so much information about how to navigate successfully in our environment and within the social mores and customs of our culture and the world at large. We need unconditional love and nurturing to develop trust in our self and our abilities and to thrive in the world. Feeling secure and safe helps build our confidence to be self-reliant and successful, and to know that we are lovable and 'good enough'.
Self-critical thoughts may cause us to doubt our abilities, to experience anxiety, and to self-sabotage our inherent potential. These thoughts and beliefs originate as the well rehearsed messages from childhood that continue to haunt us and overtake our rational mind. It takes so little to convince an innocent child that they are undeserving or not good enough.
Critical and berating words spoken by others become the repetitive and discouraging 'negative' inner dialogue that causes self-doubt and a lack of belief (usually experienced as anxiety, fear, and a lack of confidence).
Though the imposter phenomenon isn't an official diagnosis listed in the DSM, psychologists and others acknowledge that it is a very real and specific form of intellectual self-doubt. By definition, most people with imposter feelings suffer in silence, says Imes, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Georgia. "Most people don't talk about it. Part of the experience is that they're afraid they're going to be found out." - Source: American Psychological Association
I see this often in my work with clients; and it is through self-honesty and the willingness to hold up a metaphorical mirror to one's self; to decide and commit to the changes that are needed that one no longer feels like an imposter. On a spiritual level, we feel like a fraud or imposter because we know that we are not living our life in a way that is congruent to our highest self; and the most honourable way that we could be in the world. It isn't entirely about believing in one's successes and ability but in stepping up and into one's truth; that is living as the highest and best version of yourself as much as possible, that allows you to feel confident, worthy, and to own your successes completely.
If you find this notion insightful, and it is something that holds true for you, consider the moments in which you live authentic and of your highest self; when you are living your truth, and when you are being your beautiful, loving, generous self. Notice if in these same moments you feel certain, confident, and powerful and in which you own your abilities and successes in the world. Your feelings of being an imposter may also be the precipice for seeking to live your truth and for igniting your spiritual path in the direction of your highest self.
The compelling questions for so many people who identify with this phenomena is:
"HOW DO I FIX THIS?"
How can I begin to believe that the good things that happen to me; including my successes and accomplishments, are because I am deserving, capable, and worthy of success?
In therapy, I help clients identify the incorrect core beliefs that they have been taught to believe from a much earlier age. This is a powerful means of eradicating the underlying and often indiscernible root cause of self-doubt and the belief that one is a fraud (aka: an imposter). This process is intimate and personal, since each individual has their own set of both positive and problematic core beliefs. Identifying your problematic core beliefs is the first step in changing, and forming what are called new and accurate beliefs.
I then help clients to challenge and rewrite their problematic core beliefs with new statements that they know to be true. For some, this is relatively easy since when they discover the core belief that underlies their daily thought patterns, they realize instantly how incorrect it is. For others who believe their damaging core belief to be true – it is because they have lived it for some time; having found (whether real or imagined) what they believe is proof for their damaging core belief.
In either instance, there is a process for challenging problematic and untrue core beliefs that works extremely well in helping to eradicate an individual’s untrue belief and thus changing their perspective and their thoughts of themselves forever.
If you would like any assistance in rewriting any of the problematic core beliefs that you have identified in yourself, please reach out, - and let me help. Book yourself a free 15-minute discovery session with me.
Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...
Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Gray Havens'
A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau for your excellent work as always!
Here are some helpful resources on the imposter syndrome.