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The Cycle of Abuse Stops With You | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E34

The Cycle of Abuse Stops With You | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E34

April 5, 2022

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The Cycle of Abuse Stops With You | A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 34

There is no power in abuse.  -

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Ross’s* story is one of psychological and verbal abuse and the damaging effects that cast a pattern of believing and living as a victim. To live your life entrenched in the sadness and suffering of your past is to carry the baggage of victim hood with you.

 

This inner and often outer label that you have given yourself imparts confusion and self-doubt. Its mark is one of unworthiness and feeling undeserving of love. You struggle with this because at your core, you know that you are worthy. It is just that it can be difficult to find and feel evidence for this.

 

The damage inflicted by a repetitive cycle of the trauma of abuse is not entirely known until some later time in our life in which we find ourselves reliving the pattern ~ the experience ~ the rhythm ~ quite innocently.

 

 

The nature of abuse that begins in childhood can be concealed with the cursory titles of ‘father’ and ‘mother’ ~ of caregiver, family member, elder, sibling, and ‘family friend’. It becomes confusing when a parent or another caregiver is the abuser because this person is supposed to be a protector of our safety and a nurturer of our care and love.

 

As you are listening, this episode will help define your experience. Having a name for the behaviour that you were the recipient of, will give you the ability to better understand why this relationship has been so damaging and why you have continued to suffer.

 

This is how you heal from the damage you have suffered. You heal first as you name the abuse and then as you choose to no longer live it.

 

I recognize that this is a new way of thinking about what has caused you to suffer. You may in your journey of healing also wish to speak with someone who can help you reclaim your power. If you would like my help as you stop the cycle of abuse and to what you have suffered, please reach out to me. Let me help.

 

*The name of my client and others, have been changed to maintain confidentiality. The situations of his story are real and truthful.

 

 

Each Tuesday at 8pm EST, I take you on a journey - inside - what happens in a session of Life Coaching and Therapy in the 'ask dorothy' series as we answer the questions that honour your path and your life.

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

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More h e a l i n g  and  w i s d o m:

* How to Live As Love  [YouTube Video]

* The Dangers of Self-Sacrifice  [Podcast Episode]

* The Voice of Trauma  [Podcast Episode]

* Live Your Greatness [Podcast Episode Season 1]

* This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Do You Let Love In? How to Feel Deserving of Love  [Podcast Episode]

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Voice of Trauma | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E33

The Voice of Trauma | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E33

April 1, 2022

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The Voice of Trauma

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 33

 

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When you give your traumatic experience a voice it means that you do more than retell the story or ruminate on the anxiety and fear from a victim standpoint. If you are ready to release the trauma ~ to transcend it ~ ‘it’ first needs the expression of your honesty and truth. ~

 

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In this episode we look to the importance of giving trauma a voice; of acknowledging the hurt that has been caused to you by another and to give a compassionate and honourable voice to help others heal what trauma you have caused.

 

“When you acknowledge your mistakes ~ particularly mistakes in which you have caused harm to another whether intentionally or unintentionally, you hold the power to help heal the relationship and the experience of another.

 

You also free yourself from the hurt that you have caused and you create the opportunity for transformation ~ to no longer cause suffering through your words and actions.”

 

Trauma is defined as: a hurt and a wound ~ whether emotional, physical, or psychological.

The way out of trauma is through active healing and the choice to no longer live as a victim.

 

To give trauma a voice is to acknowledge where you are in relation to your experience.

 

Whether the trauma was fifteen years or three months earlier, it is still not of the present. It’s imprint can only cause you harm if you consciously or subconsciously continue to dwell on replaying the trauma ~ of what is the past and cannot be changed.

 

To give a traumatic situation a voice ~ is to acknowledge what wrong doing you are responsible for.

 

For example, if you lose control of your emotions and react with anger and this anger escalates further in your conflict into rage, and as you direct your rage at another ~ is it enough to say “I’m sorry?”

 

“I’m sorry” is a start. It is in the remorse and empathy you feel together with compassion for the suffering of another that you were responsible for, that you must give voice to.

 

Your voice is the acknowledgement of sorrow and the admittance of wrong doing. This and any other steps that you can take to help another become the tools of healing for you both.

 

Trauma for any past situation is the trauma that you need to give voice to ~ to say “this happened”. This happened and then I did this to heal from what happened.

This is how you live empowered to continue your journey of truth seeking ~ and your delivery into who and what you live now.

 

 

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

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More Healing and Self-Love:  💜

 

*  Prayers for Healing Trauma [PDF with links to Two Mantra Prayers 🙏]

*  Emotional Intelligence and Trauma  [Podcast Episode]

*  The Cycle of Abuse Stops With You  [Podcast Episode]

*  Forgiveness IS F R E E D O M  [Podcast Episode]

*  This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

*  The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Reflection Bundle

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Compassion and Kindness Bundle

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Forgiveness Bundle

*  Self-Love Toolkit: The Self-Awareness and Acceptance Bundle

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

*  The Power of Self-Honesty: How Honest Are You Willing To Be?  [Podcast Episode Season 3]

 

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

*  Receive my Weekly Love Notes  [Sign up Here]

 

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

 

 

The Snow Globe Effect: Transformation and Change | ‘ask dorothy‘ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast  | S3 E

The Snow Globe Effect: Transformation and Change | ‘ask dorothy‘ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E

December 28, 2021

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The Snow Globe Effect: Transformation and Change | A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 9

- A special episode for anyone who has faced the ending of a love relationship -

If you are listening because you have recently gone through a life change that was or was not decided by you; it can easily be overwhelming. It can cause you to question your life and what choices you have made and whether you need to rethink everything.

 

Change is being imposed upon us all of the time.  Our lives become more abundant through the change sought through desire, growth, opportunity, new thoughts, and actions.  Some change when we label it as: bad, unjust, wrong, only makes it more difficult to accept and navigate as a life experience that is causing us to break open; to think and feel and live beyond what we have - until now.

Therein is the snow globe effect - our world as we know it – shaken upside down for a time; not forever.  Then as we watch in anticipation and wonder, we see the snow fall; filling all of the space inside the snow globe, delighting us in the magic of what we are witness to; creating a beautiful scene with nothing more than the simple action of movement; of changing the form of what already is -to reveal so much beauty.

 

In this episode I share the story of my clients Harold and Delia; and how heartfelt desire and self-honesty is necessary for the change that becomes our personal transformation.  Join me!

 

 

Each Tuesday at 8pm EST, I take you on a journey - inside - what happens in a session of Life Coaching and Therapy in the 'ask dorothy' series as we answer the questions that honour your path and your life.

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here:  

 

Sending you great 💜 love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram  Facebook

 

 

More Personal Transformation and Love right here:

*  The Kindness Challenge [Read The WISDOM BLOG post here]

*  Live Your Greatness [Podcast Episode Season 1]

*  This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Do You Let Love In? How to Feel Deserving of Love  [Podcast Episode]

* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

 

 

How Long Have You Waited For Love?  | ‘ask dorothy’  |  A Real Life Client Story  | The WISDOM podcast  S2 E77

How Long Have You Waited For Love? | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast S2 E77

June 1, 2021

'ask dorothy'

How Long Have You Waited For Love?| A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 77

 

For so many clients it is in that very first session that we chart a course for the journey deep within; a journey that is often overdue; a journey that will help free them from what hurts and trauma has caused them to doubt in their abilities to feel whole and of peace; a journey into healing, love, acceptance, and approval for whatever was not given freely and without conditions; and of which they (sometimes unknowingly), are now ready to give unto themselves.

 

How Long Have You Waited For Love?

 

We are beginning to understand that love must be willingly given to our self; that we cannot thrive in the absence of it; and we do not need to wait for someone to love us; to feel loved.

Love as a feeling and a state of being that is experienced out of living in self-love.

Each one of us is equipped to love; to give love ceaselessly. We are all hard wired for this; to love our self and to love others, and to do this as the love of one human being to another. It may be that we need to practice self-love; to first learn it and to be reminded of the ways that we already do this.

The experience of love directed inward is how we reclaim our power and our wholeness. To direct love inward through words and actions of loving-kindness, is how we walk the planet in perfect oneness; feeling attuned with our ability to feel loved.

The names here have been changed to maintain confidentiality. My client’s story is real.

Sending you great 💜love...

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram

 

More Resources and Love:

This Is A Self-Love Movement  [YouTube Video]

* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit

* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life  [The Wisdom Archives]

* Do You Let Love In? How to Feel Deserving of Love  [Podcast Episode]

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell  www.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell - Autumn Sky - 'Elevation' + Purl - Stillpoint - 'Melora'

 

 

 

How PTSD Happens  | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story  | The WISDOM podcast  S2 E71

How PTSD Happens | ‘ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast S2 E71

May 11, 2021

'ask dorothy'

How PTSD Happens| A Real Life Client Story

The WISDOM podcast  Season 2 Episode 71

 

Here I share the story of a client: of whom I continue to work with at the time of writing this. Her name has been changed to protect her identity; her story is real.

 

Carol – a 26yr old female living and working in North America never knew that the physical, verbal and emotional abuse she sustained in a 3-yr relationship with a boy she met whilst still living in her homeland of China would be the reason for why she has been suffering with PTSD or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

 

Let me define first what this is because if you are listening; if you or someone you know has experienced exposure to trauma you – or they – may also be experiencing the ongoing symptoms of this mental health condition that often goes undiagnosed; the focus may instead be on one or some of its symptoms without truly understanding the magnitude of the impact of this disorder beyond the abuse itself.

 

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition in which people experience a variety of symptoms following exposure to a traumatic event. These may include flashbacks, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, avoidance, and changes in mood and thinking. Symptoms may include re-experiencing the traumatic event, avoiding reminders of the trauma, startling easily, and having negative thoughts and beliefs.

 

Not every abusive relationship will traumatize someone to the point where they are exhibiting symptoms of PTSD, but it is possible. If you or someone you know has experienced prolonged abuse of any form; whether a witness to this or directly, and perpetrated by someone that was supposed to love and respect you, it is worthwhile to complete a screening tool or checklist for PTSD.

 

I invite you to use the link that I will place in the description for both an online post-traumatic stress disorder screening tool and a self-assessment tool that can help make sense of why you may be feeling the way you do. I will also leave resources for treatment so that you can begin to help yourself.

 

Resources

* Depression in COVID-19 Times: 'Take the Test' + The 12 Best Natural Solutions to Heal Yourself  [Podcast Episode] 

* A Time of Rebirth And Awakening: of Love, of Humanity, and the Earth  [Podcast Episode]

* Online Screening Tool for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

* Assessment Tool for PTSD (online)

* The School of WISDOM [Online Courses, Workshops, Trainings]

* The Wisdom Archives [Meditation Library]

 

 

Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...

Namaste!

love, dorothy

 

If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me:  dorothy@dorothyratusny.com

 

Find all Episodes of The WISDOM podcast here  

Love in your inbox?  Subscribe to my weekly WISDOM Notes here

Visit me on social media💜 :  Twitter   Instagram

 

 

A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau  radioplato

Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternellwww.eternell.net/album/illuvia

Accompanying Music: Eternell, 'Kindness of a Cloud'

 

 

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